[mixedup_emotions]

Why is it that one minute, I am strong, knowing what I want and feeling confident that I am doing the right thing.....and then the next minute, I am feeling like I am going to give in and stay the course in my marriage?

I just want him to give me a big hug right now and tell me it's going to get better.....and I know more than anything, he wants to do that too....

But I can't get sucked back into the misery of his verbal/emotional abuse, disrespect, etc......I feel like the minute he sees weakness in me, he will be empowered to not move forward with progress on getting the help he needs to get his OCD issues, behavioral issues, etc. under control.

At this moment, I don't know what I want. How is that possible when a few hours ago, I knew exactly what I wanted.....

Ria

[Capp]

((Ria))
Jme, but making a major change is going to make us doubt our goals/ourselves/strengths. Women are usually brought up to be the caretaker and to put her needs at the bottom of the list.

When similar things happen to me I seem to get on a roller coaster of yes I do, no I don't...
This is when I have to double up and protect my determination.

The pull of staying in a situation that is not healthy for us can be very strong. The fact that it's unhealthy comes second to what our comfort level is in that situation.
Any type of change is going to stress us in many ways.
It's not easy but we do come out ahead when we honor our needs and expectations.
Expectations of being treated with respect and dignity are an absolute necessity if we are to have even a measure of peace.

Best wishes,
Cap