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Since parents died. my siblings and families treat me like
a child siblings took possesions and send mean emails I act like a child I have aunts who tell me how to put make up on and get over it- nosey alcoholic uncle who smile with beer on breath and follows you to bank -I am by myself so I tookoff-no one else there I send cards, gifts and never hear anything back They treat me like **** and think they can tell me what to do etc- all of this from siblings and relatives has resulted in hurtfulness and recovery process from deaths cannot begin My parents did not treat me this way- and I have to learn to say no thanks I will call you when I am better I am trying to meet new friends and forget family I have never done anything wrong to them- they insult and gossip-putting me down I have started today -I am not a child- I am angry at them and have tried to keep distance grief counselors told me to stay away from family-they know family I am a grown woman-. any comments welcomed |
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Sunshine,
To be honest, I'm not quite sure what I can say to encourage you. I offer my condolences on the passing of your parents. It sounds like your grief counselors are wise in suggesting you stay away from these people who are hurting you--or keep them away from you. Many times things like this happen after there is a death...family members become angry and bossy and selfish. I don't know if this is what is happening to you, but I'm very sorry for it. Are you able to stay away from them? Can you give yourself enough time so you can grieve and start becoming more at peace? It may be hard for you to do it, but perhaps it's the only way you will be able to stop them. My best wishes, Cap
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(((Sunshine)))
I agree with what Capp said to you. And I've seen in my own family how ugly people can start to behave after the death of another family member, often out of greed or jealousy. Keep doing what you are doing! ![]()
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I am able to stay away - I felly guilty not sending presents and not going to
holiday parites- but I shouldn"t I am better staying away I have started going different places so I won't run into them and I moved across town |
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I don't understand why people are so hateful during such a dark time such as death. I'm so sorry for how your family is treating you, and I agree that the best thing to do is to stay away from them. Like the saying goes, "Misery loves company" and they seem to be making every effort to guilt you into something or simply make you feel bad. I think your silence will speak volumes that you will not be treated with such disrespect.
You lost your parents - what could be worse? I think they treat you like crap because are hurting, but you are right in dealing with your grief in your own way. Being around destructive people doesn't help anyone, and one day you may have to confront them with this fact. There is never a need to feel guilty about not seeing people who just make you feel bad. So yeah, stay way. Like I said, your silence will speak volumes.
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Sunshine, you are not only dealing with the deaths of your parents, you are now dealing with mean-spirited people. Two tremendously painful things...be as kind to yourself as you possibly can, please. It's good that you have moved and very good that you are not going places where they will be. It will get easier to do the more times you stay away and make a new life for yourself. Please know that I think you are being courageous and determined, and I commend your efforts, Sunshine. Peace and Power, Cap
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I hear about relative news and family news through emai from sibling-i email
back thaks for letting me no mom might want me to-I am not sure |
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Sunshine if you really want to get the flipping toxic poison of their crap OUT of your life, do TWO things.
(1) for all things social and emotional -- to get rid of their toxic garbage -- cut all contact. Yes, ALL contact.
No one will be coming to rescue you, unfortunately. You HAVE to act decisively and firmly -- NOW -- and stick to it.
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How right you are
my sisinlaw is emailing me and mother's siters about mom's her cousin's funeral I feel so bad for mom- sisinlaw got all the money , now sisiinlaw is acting like always in control and mean -she was mean to ma and i am glad for your suppport |
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I have been trying to do it for a few years and so I guess they won't be
asking much more- I have to keep to it- it is better for all |
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