SIncew parents died family went different paths-money
It is very different because I was always going to gatherings with parents
Relatives try- but they know stalker and that makes me nervous -they
are not upset-he finds things out though the grapevine about me
Some drink alot and the the aunts' hubby comes on to me
or when I go with one relative- those 2 come along
It is not helpful
A cousin could send news about family-I have quite a few but
most info comes from sisinlaw -she is cold and controlling
very weel to do because of my father's hard work
I am afraid of her- she has said in writing I beat her up
How could I? I avoid her as much as I posibbly can
What should I do? I am headed for nervous breakdown

[artie]

I sometimes wonder what I would do if my family disappeared, which will happen one day, I think it might be a major threat to my mental health.

It's hard to be sure but you sound a little paranoid (thinking people are against you when they're not) maybe they really are against you, but you should ask yourself if you are imagining it, it's possible they really care about you.

It doesn't mean you are "crazy", most people start to think weird things when they are stressed and have no-one to talk to and bounce ideas off, I do it at 3 oclock in the morning when I can't sleep and there's no-one to talk to, this could happen to anyone when they loose loved ones.

If I lost all my loved ones I think I would get involved with helping other people, volunteer work maybe, to stop me thinking about myself and my problems.

Just getting amongst people, shopping, cafes, bars, buses or something more interactive like an evening class or friends, puts me in a more realistic frame of mind, takes my mind off my (sometimes imagined) problems.

Good luck

[Sad In TX]

I've never understood why people become so callous after the deaths of loved ones. It's like the worst comes out in people, mostly because of money.
As for the sister-in-law, I suggest you do stay away - far away. Why would she say you hit her? I just don't get it.
I would try to get out, and stay away from such toxic family as all they seem to do is make you feel bad. I've done this myself, as my mother's side just totally depresses me. I've made friends through finding work to occupy myself and get me out of the house.
I hope you find friends and caring people you deserve. It sounds like you need it. I hope there is someone you can reach out to, as it does help during times like this.

[mixedup_emotions]

I'm sorry you are having difficulties with family. Have you considered going to therapy to work through these important issues? I highly recommend it. Therapy has been a wonderful thing for me, even in these few short weeks that I have been going.

Group therapy is also something to consider. Some great friendships can be achieved through group therapy.

Do you have any close friends? Or belong to a church for whatever religion you are? Speaking to a pastor may help too.

And, of course, there's also online groups. The people here have been wonderfully supportive....

I hope you find some peace in your situation. (( HUGS ))

I want to say they are meaner to me in other ways not stated
I have been to a grief counselor and they know eveyone and said stay away
because they treat you so badly.
I work usually but laid off so I am looking for jobs, volunteer and go out with friends
It was shocking to me the way they acted- I need to have a life that is gooid
and meaningful-I am intherapy - it gets tough sometimes around Special days like Easter my parents loved it and sisiter in law had to have us all do what she wanted
then mother said we will all do whan we want - it hurts that she is sooo wealthy
and mom and dad worked so hard - but brother did not want mom to have money
after Dad died- My parents are and were my family and I am so blessed
I could only wish that it is paranoina-but it isn't-tons of mean emails from them

[artie]

When I was really stressed over something, running negatives thoughts over and over in my head (I don't know you are doing this, I'm guessing) a Doctor and friend said to me "what are you going to do about it?".

Apparently deciding what you are going to do about a problem is the best way to free yourself from endless negative thoughts going round and round in your head. I was expecting him to give me a pill to fix it, he said that's not the cure.

Decided what to do worked for me.

In your case I'd imagine you might decide to do something like forget about your relatives completely and start a new life just how you want it. Or it might be try to make amends, it's your decision.

I tried the ammends- it is worse
I have to go my own way- stop calling to say hello, sending gifts and
cards and trying to be so nice to everyone- inlcuding relatives on both sides
I have not been given a chioce-cruel emails from inlaws-brother won't give
me my belongings and on and on - I was the caretaker - they were hardle ever there when my parents needed them- my parents were so giving and caring