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Apr 14, 2009, 09:48 PM
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I saw him on Sunday and he hasn't called me back...and I don't have plan to call him becuase that's not making me happy....since we are back, he's never called me...
I feel so depressed today....I don't know how to deal with it....I have done my meditation and excercise, but I can't avoid the sadness....I wish he was calling me.... I hate myself being this much needy  I miss my ex-boyfriend who was always on my side and wanted me so much....wish I could have found somebody like him in my life again....I wish...I hope I can find somebody like him again.... |
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#2
Apr 15, 2009, 10:14 PM
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Hi Marjan,
I'm sorry that you are feeling so sad today. While I don't know the specifics of your situation, I sense your feeling of being powerless waiting for his call and I empathize. Do you feel overall that he does not make you as happy as your ex-boyfriend, or is it just that maybe you feel that he isn't a comfort to you when you're feeling down? Maybe you can write a letter to him and express everything you're feeling right now, but not send it. Perhaps in a few days, you can re-read it and see what some of the core feelings are mixed in with your current mood. Hang in there - my thoughts are with you. The storm will pass. 
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Apr 16, 2009, 03:11 PM
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but I do feel a bit better today....although, I felt okay yesterday too.... probably, that kind of depression was just mood swing....I hate my mood swings...I hate them....it's driving me crazy.... |
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Apr 17, 2009, 09:34 AM
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(((Marjan)))
You will find someone even better if you are willing to learn from the mistakes you made in this relationship and not settle for less for yourself. You deserve a warm, loving, reciprocal relationship. But first you need to grieve and get over this one. Jumping into a new relationship probably would not be the best thing for you. It's okay to feel sad. None of us ever want to feel sad, but sometime the only way to not feel something is to feel it until you are "done" feeling it. Until you have worked through your loss of this relationship. Give yourself time, be kind to yourself as you feel sad about this loss. You will find love again. 
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 I'd rather have a visit, note or pretty picture than an "I'll say a prayer" or a "god bless you." Doesn't make me feel better, no meaning to me for sure. Can't stop you from praying and blessing me, and if that makes you feel better feel free. But keep it to yourself please, don't tell me. And let's all respect each other's feelings. With kindness, support and "sweet dreamings." 
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Apr 17, 2009, 12:36 PM
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Thanks Pomegranate,
You are absolutly right....I have to get over this guy...and I want to have a kind person in my life....He's not kind at all.....I don't need him.... These days I have so much stress getting job, and moving to a new place.....he's not helpful at all...he doesn't understand how stressed I am....if he's not good with me now, then what I should expect from him later on? I actually feel okay dumping him....and happy that it's coming from my side.... I just got to find a way to stop thinking about him....then I will be fine.... |
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Apr 17, 2009, 06:45 PM
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It sounds like Pomegranate has a good sense of what's going on with you right now. You definitely deserve a partner who cares and is sensitive to you, even when you're down. In the long term it sounds like you need someone who can accept that part of you. It's hard to have faith, but you probably feel better in the long run. Hope this note finds you well.
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Apr 18, 2009, 01:32 AM
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Apr 18, 2009, 02:49 AM
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I can sense your frustration with all the rush of emotions that you're so overwhelmed. May I please ask why you guys ended the relationship in the first place? Getting over any type of lost is very difficult for anybody so you're not alone in this. But maybe by focusing on the more positive things from this situation can help you take little steps from letting go and accepting things for what they are. People come and go for a reason and some stay longer or shorter than others in our lives but they are all there to teach us something about ourselves. Thats good that you're being resourceful and taking care of yourself by taking your meds and working out and stay focus on that you're doing great. Do you have a good friend by your side that you can call when you have your weak moments when you just feel so overwhelmed? How about taking a stroll through a park or what helps me is to go to the mall and be in the company of others and sit at a cafe with a good magazine. Keep writing to all of us its a great way to release your emotions. |
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Apr 18, 2009, 11:49 AM
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