Jealousy & Humilated

I am jealous of a friendship with a male friend of mine and another woman (he has told me things about her ,...some of it not so nice).....he made me feel like I was the only friend he trusted and confided in..I felt very special .. now knowing he talks to this other person..dont know if he calls or text's her like he does with me.Worst part... I wonder if he's told her things about me which I confided in him. My head is just a mess now.. I just feel humilated .. like I am nobody special at all. Maybe I am making too much out of this.
He is the one person I tell everything to... guess I thought I was the same for him. Maybe I need to find another friend so I dont feel so alone and hurt. I can't confront him about this.. he'll say its none of my business...dont know what to do. Im thinking & crying and its giving me a headache. I feel like crap. How do I not need him like I think I do.

Hey Michelle!

Hey, lighten up! Just because he made a new friend doesn't mean he's going to ditch you. Do you have feelings for him?

I can understand and relate to how you feel but we have to guard against the tendency to want our friends all to ourselves. If they confide in others, do not take offense and perhaps even shun them. Learn that we all need to widen out in our friendships. Allow your friends to develop other friendships too. He needs privacy and maybe even time to himself, we all do. While you should not hesitate to reach out to him, try to be balanced and thoughtful. I know that's hard to do when you find someone you adore and love to spend time with but it's important. According to what you wrote it seems like he cares about you very much so you have absolutely nothing to fear. The best thing to do is to open up to him and tell him how you feel. Everything will be alright, you'll see!

Hope you're having a good weekend.

Hi Vlo.

Thank You so much for opening my eyes.....I hate when I let my imagination run wild..and let it get the best of me... I usually wait a while and think before I post and make myself look like a neurotic.
This time I acted on impluse and well...look.
Yes, I have feelings for him...thats why I feel the way I do at times.
He does things that I have no doubt on how he feels about me... then I overthink it.. and say..maybe he does those things to the other woman as well. Maybe I'm losing trust with him and I don't want to.
He's not the type that I could say this to.. he probably would dump our friendship with me for being this way. Maybe If I branched out myself I wouldnt feel so bad.?

Oh dear Jah !

I am in pretty much the exact same situation .

I feel betrayed and abandoned .

She is the only one I can tell my every feeling and problem to ,

and she always manages to understand and help me .

She is an amazing person , and I love her .

But ,

once I introduced her to one of my friends and I find out that she has told him everything in her life , all the bad and her problems . She told him everything after knowing him for little over a day .

I can't explain it really . I just feel so crap and miserable about this . And now it feels as if I am slipping away from her .

Wow , I have never written it down like this . Now I feel much worse