[Hazed&Confused]

I am currently working through a tough time with my boyfriend - he broke my trust and he is still working on getting my trust back. I haven't had sex with him in a little over a month and I won't do anything until I am ready but I can tell he's struggling with the sexual frustration. I understand were in our early 20's-hormones are raging but thats no excuse to push your luck; especially when I'm giving him a second chance. I know he tries to be compliant but I just feel so tired of keeping my distance. It's so hard for me to let go of anger and I focus on 18 credits of school, working, i'll have summer school starting then immediately going to work full time. I feel like I can't slow down to really work on my relationship. It's really wearing me down and I don't know if this is self-sabotage or just a normal part of a struggling relationship.

How can I just learn to slow down and regain some emotional energy?

[Vlo1980]

How did he break your trust? More details please.

[Hazed&Confused]

he cheated on me. theres no excuse for it but i decided to give him another chance ONLY because i sensed he was truly sorry and it happened very early in our relationship before we became more serious. i believe it was brave of him to admit it to me and know he'd probably lose me because he did until i made my decision. he's been working really hard to prove to me he can be a good person.

I know it sounds stupid but my best friend, friends and family love him and i do too. he was stupid and allowed alcohol to take control and now he has to pay the price.

i just have a lot going on right now from all different angles and my bf has always been there to slow me down but it's hard to let him. He keeps telling me to talk to someone or both of us could go somewhere like his church but i don't know how much it would help.