You know you have erotic transference when..

I am a female and I have written 3 fantasies about my male T that I've had for 10 yrs. I wrote 2 about my female Pdoc when I was in the psych hospital for 3mos.

The interesting thing is that when I am feeling better, or more healthy, it is harder to imagine my T on his knees. It's just not realistic so I can't imagine it.

They are all the same 5 ft tall 6 ft tall still at lest you all know now

Ugh, you know sexually there's very little there but you're still horny every time he crosses ur mind...

When my pdoc and I end up in hug and I end up cheek to cheek with him. Aaaaah!!!! Pretty tame, I know, but gratifying to say the least. Not sex, but sexy to me.

You get so distracted looking at her (oh, so pretty) feet that she thinks you have dissociated...

And you have, cos you're imagining said feet in leather cuffs....

+1 that is just so believable

Red and FP! Stop destroying my fantasy! D'yis hear me!

Lol! I've done that! And later bought the same shade of nail varnish...

When you even find her "business Mom" style clothes adorable.

When you finally get that end of session hug and the memory of how strong her back feels overrides anything you talked about in session...

And you're thinking, Oh I'll bet she does yoga...

And you're wondering if she can tell how much you've been working out too...

When she wishes you good luck over the holiday period and you take it as a very personal and heartful gesture which caues you to feel giddy and think of her for the rest of the day or the next few days.

When T-Mobile makes you think of T coming to your house for your therapy.

When you dream that the two of you are working at an overnight camp together and she's changing into a set of cute silky PJs, slowly removing a matching set of panties...

When T leaves a first ever voicemail....and you listen to it about 700 times trying to find meaning in the way he has said each word, download the file onto your computer and email it to yourself so you will never lose it.

When you start thinking about what to wear at the next session as soon as this one ends....when you think about wearing a shirt so it shows just a little bit of cleavage, but not so much as to seem obvious or repulsive.

When you blurt out in session that you want a photograph of her because she's so very cute. Then you spend the next days and weeks cringing and thinking, how could you be so pathetic? But still wanting one very badly.

You haven't seen them for a while, but when they come bouncing out smiling, your heart drops to the pit of your stomach

You've only seen him two times, but you can't stop thinking about him and you fantasize about kising him and more.

Oh gee. I m glad I don't have male therapist. I subconsciously knew this stuff could happen to me. Mine is in her 60s and not good looking and a woman and I am not attracted to women

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I accepted a guy because I've always had females and no problems. But I need to have a healthy male relationship. He said his job is to model a healthy relationship with a male so that I can go on and have good relationships with other men instead of being scared of them.

No matter who my therapist is, male or female, I get a crush. I think I'm straight but when I've had female therapists or psychiatrists I get all confused.

Of course this can and has happened with women who are not a T or Pdoc of mine but just a current obsession.

I went with a male because I thought he would give me some perspective into my BF's thinking. And maybe a little subconscious wish to see what a healthy male relationship could be like. My T never tells me anything so explicitly though. I feel like he just leaves it all up to me to figure out . And now I am not sure it is so healthy to be pining away for him and always wondering what he really thinks of me, or if maybe, maybe, he desires me.

when….he closes his eyes and juts out his chin to capture a thought ...and you want to take advantage of the moment and kiss him by surprise.

Oh! Mine does this thing where he looks up at a high point and gently closes his eyes for a fraction of a second when he's thinking of how to phrase something. His eyelashes look long and dark and I want him so bad then....

He has some charming brow furrows.

I can't remember what my therapist looks like.