Do I HAVE to talk about the MET to move past it?

I have MET and it drives me crazy. I don't want the feelings and know they stem from my emotionally distant mom's death in May. My T knows I have MET and we have discussed to move through them I need to talk about them.

Do I have to or will talking about my maternal transference take care of the ET too?

I plan to ask her this next week. Just wondered everyone's opinions.

I am probably not best placed to answer... but yes, talking about it openly is supposed to help.

Talking may or may not help. It's "supposed to" help according to the traditional school of thought, but from all my experiences and from what I've heard others say, what helps the most is when the therapist is able to relate to the client in such a way that they don't hide their humanity meaning they are kind, respectful, friendly, empathetic, while, at the same time, preserve their professionalism. Many therapists, however, don't know how to strike that delicate balance because they feel that every human expression will interfere with their professional role.

ET may IMO get resolved when the therapist stays engaged with the client and continues to relate to the client in such way that it feels warm and human, but at the same time it doesn't feel like a parent-child relationship. The therapist has to be able to be genuinely human but not maternal. That, I think, would do it. Actually, I know that does it from reading other people's stories.

Talking, in and of itself, doesn't resolve this issue in my experience.

I think telling about anything helps. It removes the taboo which can be way more weight than you know until you get it off your chest.

" If you put shame in a petri dish, it needs three ingredients to grow exponentially: secrecy, silence, and judgment. If you put the same amount of shame in the petri dish and douse it with empathy, it can't survive." ~~From Tedtalks, Brene Brown

Yes, yes, and yes.

You force the words out of your mouth and just keep going. Ultimately, it will ease. Mine softened and got less intense- it was mind blowing when it was at its peak. Especially since it was maternal erotic transference. I want you to hold me AND I want to F you.