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#1
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I never thought I'd post here
![]() So... T is a father figure to me. But I'm having weird and confusing fantasies lately... Is it ET or what? Here are some of my thoughts: (TMI trigger) - Do I want to hug him? - Yes! - Do I want to kiss him on the cheek? - Yes! - Do I want to kiss his lips? - Not sure. Yes? - Do I want to have sex with him? - Not sure. No? - Do I want him to be my boyfriend/husband? - NO WAY - Do I want to go out on a date with him? - NO WAY So I have no idea what do I feel. Any thoughts please? |
![]() growlycat, LonesomeTonight, Shazerac
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![]() naenin
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#2
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You are too hard on yourself! Therapy brings up all kinds of feelings. Some come and go. I felt all of the above plus contradictory feelings like repulsion and feeling like he is too much like me. Overall I am fond of him m but sexual impulses arise and they freak me out too. It's just therapy being weird.
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![]() captgut, chihirochild, LonesomeTonight
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#3
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I think I should tell him, but I'd DIE of embarrassment. And he'd hate me |
![]() growlycat, LonesomeTonight
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#4
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It is hard to talk to t about but worth it. You will feel relief after that hard conversation.
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![]() captgut, LonesomeTonight
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#5
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I've similar feelings about my T. I've read that it's due to unmet childhood needs becoming unmet adulthood needs.
I think my feelings for T are disgusting because "I am disgusting". I told T and she said my feelings aren't the problem, but my self disgust is. She and I talked about what I didn't get growing up, and what I still don't have. I like to remind myself of these great posts by Attachment Girl: https://boundaryninjatales.com/2012/...-transference/ https://boundaryninjatales.com/2011/...-really-arent/ |
![]() Anonymous37961, growlycat, LonesomeTonight
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![]() Attachment Girl, captgut, LonesomeTonight
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#6
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well if hugging is that, then I am in trouble, I hug him every session and I crave it sometimes between sessions
otherwise I can not imagine him in any way but causal/friend like, I think I'd quit if I had ET. i have no idea if what you have is but I assume its probably not? doesn't sound too sexual etc to me. |
![]() captgut, growlycat
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#7
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A T will almost always put these things down to some sort of transference, or a mixture of a couple. Half of me thinks; "yea, its a good way to find start points for exploration". The other half of me thinks; "nah, its a load of b.s so they can wriggle out of any awkward feelings towards them, or between them and the client."
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![]() captgut, growlycat, LonesomeTonight
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#8
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Feelings aren't right or wrong, they simply are...and should be honored.
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![]() captgut, Searching4meaning, Spangle
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What if you answer yes to all of them!!! Looks like I'm done for
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![]() Spangle
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