I am going through a difficult time right now, and I really need prayer for wisdom and guidance...I applied for rental assistance back on Dec.7th...the process does take a bit of time and things are happening though ever so slowly...My landlord has not received rent since the first of December..I call my county office just about every day and they said I should be getting rental vouchers...My problem is that my landlord calls me every single day, even though I told him that I have applied for aid, and there is not anything more that I can do..He leaves me emails telling me that I have to call him immediately, or else..He has threatened that he will sell this house and show it to prospective buyers every day to disrupt our lives..He is a very controlling and angry man and he intimidates me..He has called my mother in law (where my estranged husband lives) and asked her when are we going to pay the rent...He even asked her if my H and I were getting divorced...while walking my dog down the center island of my street, he drove his truck up onto the median and asked me what I am doing to pay rent...He has accused me of doing nothing..He showed up at the house the other day, and confronted me about paying the rent...even told me to get into his truck to talk to him...Now he thinks that he is my friend and told me that I should divorce my husband, so that I can get more support and a settlement from him...He gave me the name of a lawyer he uses...I took the number but did not call this lawyer...My landlord called me the next day and said that he spoke to this lawyer and he told him that I had not called...He knows that I am a christian and has attacked my lack of not taking care of myself, said that God helps those who help themselves..Yesterday he called and I did not pick up my phone, so he left me another email stating that I am to call him every day with a daily accounting of what is happening...this has worn me out emotionally...I am trusting that this is in Gods' hands and that if this door is shutting, then another one will open..he has threatened to sell the house and this does not scare me anymore, I am worn out with all of his threats to me...but I don't know how to deal with this man..The last comment he wrote in the email is that if I don't follow through, then I have caused him to lose trust in all of humanity, because if I fail and I am a christian, then there is no faith in humanity...I don't know anymore how to deal with him...I just want to be firm with him in love...bold as a lion but harmless as a dove..but not sure if this is right...I have been up for 2 nights in a row without sleep due to him, and I am not sure if I am thinking clearly or I am making too much out of this...I need wisdom in dealing with this...and would greatly appreciate any advice and prayer...take gentle care...

please try ignoring him as much as possible. it's harmful to your health. he sounds like a bully and is enjoying this.

call the aid office and explain that you're being harrassed by your landlord and perhaps they could hurry things along a bit to help you out.

are you able to get a parttime job? does your husband contribute anything?

don't worry about this man losing "faith in humanity".....you have to have some to lose it...........xoxoxo pat

[SeptemberMorn]

You and those that are working on your case are in my prayers, Hon. The wheels of government do turn ever so slowly!

Don't pay attention to this man. Whatever he thinks or says is HIS problem and it sounds like he has a few control issues. If he was going to do something, he'd do it legally. Don't answer your phone when it's him and don't answer your door to him.

He sounds like the manager of my mobile home park. I swear she takes a jar full of "nasty pills" every morning!

Hang tight, ok?

[(JD)]

Just because we are Christians does not mean we don't suffer real human experiences...and that since HE (the landlord) is the one who knows about your situation, perhaps GOD is trying to use HIM to help you... tell him that.



Don't worry, remain calm, tell him you can only do what you can do and you're doing it. Call the lawyer if you can. If not, then don't.

I am so very grateful for you all here...thank you for your care and understanding...well today I decided that I could not take anymore from him...He left me another message on my phone stating he was coming in an hour to bring the realtor to do a walk-through in the house...at first I felt scared but decided that I had to talk to him...by law he has to give me 48 hours notice before he comes..I told him this, and then we had a "deep" conversation..no anger, but I told him exactly how I felt he was treating me...for the first time I was doing the talking and he was listening to me..at one point he said I was acting like the b word...but I told him how I have felt harrassed and mistreated by him..he then apologized to me, and said that he is hard sometimes on the outside..he said that he is going through a difficult time right now, and I acknowledged that me not paying the rent has affected him in a negative way..He said that he says things the wrong way most times...my heart was deeply touched...and then he told me about how he loves God and prays for me and my family...I apologized to him also, and we worked it out..guess, we both had something to learn in this...prob I should have told him when he did the first thing to me how it upset me...anyway, today I saw character and integrity in him....he also does not want us to move...I am praying without ceasing now that the rent comes through for him, and this will be ok...I feel so blessed to be able to share with you all....

[SeptemberMorn]

God does answer prayer!

[dottie]

Hi. Please look in your phone book for a "Fair Housing" office. We have one here where I live. If you don't see one in the phone book..ask your case worker if you have something akin to that in your area. They will get this egghead off of your back...pronto. What he is doing is illegal! Hope this helps you! Take good care!-dottie

good for you and him!!!!!!!! makes me smile this morning.......xoxoxo pat

[BlueFaith]

Wow. Sometimes you do get the chance to see more of a person than what's on the outside. I'm glad you were able to work things out.

[froggie2]

All I can say is WOW. You turned it around and that isn't easy. It sure is amazing what happens when both parties feel they are heard. Good for You! Major Victory! Now just trust the rent comes through.

Just had to update to my special friends here..This afternoon I found out from my eldest son, after he spoke to his father, that he is sending us the money for both months of rent...actually, he is sending double the amount! He cashed in a 40lk and is sending the rent to us on Monday...I am in awe...right now my husband hates me, and has told me that, but,..my children kept saying to me that God would not let us go down...That He did not bring us out this far to take us back again, he brought us out to bring us into the promised land...funny thing though, right now I am kinda numb, which confuses me, maybe becaused something good is coming from the man who just told me that I am worthless...last night my landlord came to show the realtor the house and we talked after...He was so kind and gentle...I truly believe that when things are ordained, they flow, there is no hindrance...I am convinced that we are moving from here, but at the appointed time..My daughter said something to me tonight that is so true...God is never early, never late, He is always on time...