Need Strength

today is my 12th wedding annivesary and wife and i are split up currently .. I know that i have to Let go and Let God deal with this situation ..

Here is the problem I feel If I attempt to celebrate this occassion then I will not allowing God to deal with this matter --

Christmas wife didn't want to celebrate with me -- her birthday same thing

So i'm confused should I do the husband thing or just sit back and watch ????

Tymber

Tymber, i am sorry i wasn't there for you today. My thoughts are that you could
1. call her and say remember what we were doing 12 years ago? or if things are not at the point that you can do that.

2. Then i would let it go, " uncelebrated"

Good luck, sorry i got you all muddy.
lemmkins

Hello Tymber. If I were in your situation (just a suggestion) I would send a card and send her some roses. I would not push her in to anything and feel bad or make things worse. I would celebrate your anniversary, and know that you did the right thing by doing what is really the right thing to do, giving your wife space, at this time, sending a card and roses, to let her know you care, then every month send her a card, and possibly a letter of how you feel. Sometimes Tymber it is not the past that matters as much as the present, and what you can do to make things better at this time, cards, letters, candy , and flowers are really the way at this time. OH YEAH...HAPPY HAPPY ANNIVERSARY. Take care soidhonia

Having been on the "moving on" end of a failed marriage, my gut feeling is to tell you to "let go and let God". You gain strength by practicing self control. It's obvious your wife wants/needs a separate life from you now... for whatever reason.

Personally, I get triggered, very impatient and feel suffocated, if I say "no" to a person and they don't stop. It's a breach of my personal boundaries. To me, it's obvious your wife has moved on. Let it go, Timber. Set her free. If she's yours, she'll come back. If she doesn't, she was never yours to begin with.

You're in my thoughts and prayers.

I'm sorry to hear this. Did you know that there are definite certain years/times during marriage when separations occur the most? At years 3, 7 and 13, or thereabout...something has to shift in the marriage to keep going.

Take it as a time to adjust and shift things...make the marriage better. Change isn't bad.

TC!