[ocdwoman27]

Happy Thursday, all!

Last night at my church Lenten service, the topic was forgiveness. The rector is a gifted teacher & it really struck me-people in the past I should ask forgiveness of because I wasn't nice or thought badly of???

Is there a continuum for forgiveness-do you go on the basis of the depth of the issue at hand? I mean if you weren't nice to someone occasionally, do you ask forigveness? If you injuired someone physically, I guess you would. I;m just obsessing over it right now-I left the rector a message about it.

AC

[SeptemberMorn]

If you're still in touch with these people, you might give them a call and then treat it as your other obsessions. All you can do is ask.

[Rhapsody]

This book really helped me to FORGIVE......................

Radical Forgiveness, by Colin Tipping.

http://www.radicalforgiveness.com/

http://radicalforgiveness.com/mm5/me...tegory_Code=BK

[Rapunzel]

You could always try praying that you will know the things for which you need to seek forgiveness. Generally, I would think that if you are still bothered about something that you have done, then you may need to seek forgiveness in some way. Sometimes the only way left is between you and God.

But if you have OCD, and obsessions about wrongs that you have done in the past, then most of them are likely to be obsessions that you need to try to let go of. Almost invariably, people with OCD are extremely conscientious and good people, who would not harm anyone if they can prevent it. Nobody is perfect, but if you have OCD I would guess that you probably put a great deal of effort into trying to be perfect. In that case, you can still pray, and ask for discernment between any past wrongs that you need to take care of, vs. those that need to be released.

Rap

[ocdwoman27]

The 3 friends I contacted said everything was OK with them. I have another friend on the West Coast who I said some hurtful things to in high school and never asked for her forgiveness-30+ years ago.

I have her parents' phone and could call them and ask where she is but I'm debating that one-she's been diagnosed with depression in the recent past. I haven't spoken to her for over 10 years.

I don't know about that one-maybe I should just learn from her that I can't be possessive? I DON't KNOW!

AC

[(JD)]

Forgiveness is always good I think. Not only does it help the one you're forgiving, but it does a wealth of good healing for oneself.

I'm confused as to why contacting someone who is depressed and tell her you feel disappointed with your previous actions towards her, would be possessive. I think it might be good for her, and it since you are remembering it, why not let it be good for you too? If God has called this to your memory, perhaps now is the time to make contact. TC