[cusack10]

really looking to go outside to meet new people,find some support,but i'm afraid of being harmed.
i viewed some posts concerning introverted people,which is saying that you need to practice,you'll change after you work.but i don't have foundation,or store,or bottom,or castle sort of build-up,so i'm worrying that i would fall up when i meet bad.instructions.
what occasion suit this type of me?
refresh it.i think the foundation is built with reason or truth,you can't build it with confrontations or conflicts,so in what occasion does reason take a relatively firmer stand?

[costello]

I don't think it's as simple as whether you're an introvert or an extrovert.

My son is on the extrovert side. He'd love to have friends to hang out with. But he's so sensitive, he gets his feelings hurt when he's around other people. He mostly stays home.

I'm extremely introverted, but I'm around people all the time. (I have to go out and work.) I'm not afraid of other people - either for my physical or psychic safety.

Maybe extrovert-introvert has less to do with fear than with desire to interact with people? It's just unfortunate that my son has that desire but also a great fear.

[fishsandwich]

Yes, I've always thought that the introvert/extrovert divide was characterised by desire or need to interact with people, not fear.

That said, I'm not really sure what you're looking for. Do you want to not be afraid of people? Why are you afraid of people? Maybe looking up 'social anxiety' would be better than looking up introversion.

[cusack10]

not desire or need.you just got place to retreat when you meet people's abandon,you can respond to the negatives,that requires you a foundation or something alike,and that is built with truth or reason,and what i ask is where they are.
not here to teach.

[cusack10]

after that,we can let our nature out,desire or need.got it?

[cusack10]

it is clear that i am advancing,too ahead of the times.

[Gr3tta]

cusack10 are you concerned about having a place to either physically or mentally retreat if you find that the interactions are not safe?
I'm a lot more comfortable interacting with others if I have an exit plan. That would make sense to me. You can set that up in advance so you can make a strategic retreat if necessary for continued advancement.

[cusack10]

first of all,why does it take so long for you guys to make a reply?

[Gr3tta]

sorry you waited so long. sometimes people are here spottily. also sometimes i need time to think about an answer. or sometimes i read but feel too shy to say anything. i don't know if that's anyone else though.

[cusack10]

yeah,note that i am still in unsafe,in pain.so my words now may not be well organised.
we are through why,now we are precisely on how.concerning "a strategic retreat".

[cusack10]

*we are through with why.
you're still here or turn mute forever?

[cusack10]

i tell you what,i am fighting on both lines,my family and outside,i really can't stretch my ground which is a must in this world.you had your ground in a period of time of reason or truth,which is your retreat and defense area when being put down or hurt.i am looking for this time...
don't be shy to reply,i am not able to argue,i can only reason.

[Gr3tta]

We're on how now with strategic retreat. There has to be first physical room for retreat, an actual exit, a physical way out. This can be scoped in advance. And a secondary exit in case of emergency. There should be a metal escape for positive focus if needed. This can frequently be discovered at the time. Then the reasonable explanation.
But don't use the exits unless you really have to or it misses the whole point! See? It is just to make it breathe easier while there. The better they are the less you will need them. Hopefully.

[cusack10]

mentally is mostly we talking about.positive focus,which is vital for a healthy interaction,i am digging where it come from,it must be founded in a time of your life where positive things span,i may get it too abstract,i am scoping when and where positive things take their stand.

[Gr3tta]

do you have a time in your life of positivity? you can build a place if it's not there already.

[cusack10]

inside and outside oppressed,not much positivity.in term of method of building the place,please review my above posts.

[cusack10]

so sad.i absolutely tried my very best seeking help around the globe through all these years,few replies recieved,people just turn mute with no reason given.how to be material.i am too spiritual.i am one of the kind,sadly.

[cusack10]

say something,ok?Please......

[Gr3tta]

Hi cusack! Be away from the computer for most of the weekend. I'm not sure I understood about the building? Can you tell me again?
Sometimes my hearing gets distracted even when I'm reading the words and they say something else than what I am thinking. Does that make sense?
Anyway, I will try to understand if you can try to say again.
Hope you can be having a good weekend.

[cusack10]

will you do some review and then tell me what you still don't understand,ok?i'm all here.

[Gr3tta]

Hi cusack! I'm glad to see your post. I re-read all our posts to try to figure it out again. I am lucky because I do have positive things to build on to create safety in my mind. Can you find some of your own if you look really hard? Even little moments are good, like something that makes you laugh, or the taste of your favourite food, or a beautiful piece of artwork you've seen. Can you seek these out?

[cusack10]

thank you for the reply.i got some health problem due to the pressure.
briefly,there are peace and violent(reason and not reason) existing together in this world,in order to tackle the not reason,we have to grow the reason to an extent that there is a connection or ground we can retreat with in unsafe situations constantly.and that must be formed in the evironment of reason or truth(the question again).there are surely many funny things in this world,but they don't connect to your actual life,they are not the things you can retreat with in a real life situation,they're just spots,there's still a gap.

[Gr3tta]

Thank you, that puts it so I think I understand better. I agree there's a gap. But I also think you can reason yourself into a hole. At least I can. I don't always mind if it's unreasonable if it makes reason more bearable. But not in a chaotic or violent way.

[Gr3tta]

Cusack, can you tell me a little about yourself? That might help me get to know and understand you better. Your English is very good, but I wondered if it is your first language? Can you tell me some about your life? You can send me a private message if you don't want to put it here.

[cusack10]

i'm out of me,especially,by waiting to the mute most of the time.i know i can get into a hole.that is an abstract question.right now,i just feel intruded,i mean the space of my basic living is disturbed, to be specific that is my meals,my place to sleep in,and the internet.in my place the neighbor's kid pulled my internet line outside and mom said nothing can't be done.she's just not on my side when involving outsiders.and other outsiders visiting her place ...i am just nervous.
i first post this thread in ptsd section,http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=226900.