Not Being Good Enough In Life

i put myself on a dating site recently but the questions are very imtimidating. asking "what are u doing in life right now" and stuff like that. but im not really qualified to answer these questions. as i have no answer. lets be real - my REAL answers would come off reallyy bad.

i looked at another dating sites forums where they mock people on there and people in real life saying they would never date someone with Sz.

im not wantingg to fake being social in friendship or more becuz i CANNOT back up the faking. it wouldnt last long.



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I'm on okcupid altho I never posted a photo, so I never really get any inquiries. But I do read the guys' profiles, and I find it very educational. After a while, it becomes like exposure therapy to a phobia, and you learn to read the profiles for what they really mean. It's hard to explain! But I think worth doing for that reading experience.

im on okcupid too :/ and another.

people write a lot about themselves there. which is good. i have 2 photos but nothing written. which i feel is worse. for me anyway.

I get what you mean about feeling not good enough. I'm afraid if I meet any of these guys, what am I gonna say I do? Nothing. Even tho I already worked for so many years, they all have kids and grandkids and volunteer work and consultant work and hobbies and this and that. Im like, well I hang out, and it takes up all my time. Doesnt sound too good.

This is the problem of our society. "What are you doing with your life" is actualy asking "what do you do that generates money." So many people have come to believe that the value of a person is equal to a dollar sign. Take credit scores for example. A credit score is just an arbitrary number that some banks made up off a very complex equasion. Half the time what lowers or raises your credit score makes no snese. For example paying off certain debts can actually lower your score (whish is so stupid!) BUt, now you read in the news that many companies are starting to turn to credit scores to determine who they hire, which is BS.

Credit score doesn't tell you if lost a job, had a divorce, a death in the family, a disaster, etc.

Because of this money thinking so many people are ashamed to be on disability. It's terrible! If you have a major issue in your life that's just how it is. Not everyone is the 8-5 worker. Humans are not robots. It makes me mad. People are not $$. People are so many things.

It's horrible.

There's a dating site for people dx'd with mental illness.

ETA: http://www.nolongerlonely.com/

i did go there before but theres either very little people on there or people rarely log in for months.

i actually search okcupid cuz you can search by keyword and one guy said in his profile that he has schizophrenia. then i was like "idk..." cuz of other things like he was bisexual. and who knows who any of these people are.

My Mum keeps pushing me to join a dating website, but I honestly can't see any man wanting to go out with me while I don't have my s**t together

*Willow*

I met my wife on a dating site.
We both have mental health issues. Neither one of us included anything about this on our profiles, but we did bring it up (not immediately) but pretty early in our relationship. It worked out great. I realize this is not the usual, and won't happen for everyone. But I just wanted to say that you can still find someone with mental illness. We did.
You'll have to plow through a lot of wrong people on any dating site, but I think its worth it to take the chance.

I recently tried a dating site. But then I became paranoid and felt too exposed and deleted my account. For me until I lose this weight I gained from seroquel and become stable I'm not gonna worry about it. But it does get lonely.