[punkybrewster6k]

Let it roll everyone!

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[newtus]

i told my mom she had a lot of flab on her stomach to make her feel bad from bringin up my weight and she goes "and you dont?". i told her she was pressuring me to lose weight too much.

i just got down to 129 pounds. and im really sick of saying how big i am or what shes called being the "food police". seeing what i ate and stuff. i haate it

[Erti]

Originally Posted by newtus

i told my mom she had a lot of flab on her stomach to make her feel bad from bringin up my weight and she goes "and you dont?". i told her she was pressuring me to lose weight too much.

i just got down to 129 pounds. and im really sick of saying how big i am or what shes called being the "food police". seeing what i ate and stuff. i haate it

Should of say something along the lines of "I'm on medication that cause weight gain. what's your excuse?"

Newtus: At 129 you are NOT fat! I am 223. Now that is fat! Don't let your mom's comments get to you

[jadeprincess01]

you need to eat to lose weight, small portions of healthy food, as long as you feel full your doing it right, three square meals a day, or six small snacks tho out the day, eating regularly keep your metabolism up.

hi day is good just playing my games on my ipad, kinda bored, not much people in chat.
symptoms are minimal haven't hear anything all day, but at night is when it strikes.

[Crescent Moon]

Originally Posted by newtus

i told my mom she had a lot of flab on her stomach to make her feel bad from bringin up my weight and she goes "and you dont?". i told her she was pressuring me to lose weight too much.

i just got down to 129 pounds. and im really sick of saying how big i am or what shes called being the "food police". seeing what i ate and stuff. i haate it

I know this weight thing is a real sore spot with you.. and it makes it worse that she seems to be in some kind of denial about your illness that requires medication that makes it hard to control weight.

Is there any way that you can have a discussion with her and tell her that the meds make it difficult to be skinny, but if you don't take the meds because she makes you feel so bad about a little extra weight, that it prevents you from being the best you can be? Maybe if you two can make a pact that neither of you will ever talk about weight?

Her comments interfere with your med compliance - and that's a bad thing.

I wish you could get well enough to do something like volunteer at an animal shelter or something... so you could be less bored, and have something going on that makes you feel like you are doing something worthwhile.

[Erti]

Originally Posted by Cracking Slowly

Newtus: At 129 you are NOT fat! I am 223. Now that is fat! Don't let your mom's comments get to you

You and I are around the same weight! We should be weight loss buddies!

[punkybrewster6k]

Originally Posted by soulreaper

you need to eat to lose weight, small portions of healthy food, as long as you feel full your doing it right, three square meals a day, or six small snacks tho out the day, eating regularly keep your metabolism up.

hi day is good just playing my games on my ipad, kinda bored, not much people in chat.
symptoms are minimal haven't hear anything all day, but at night is when it strikes.

Yea, weekends are slow here...

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[BurtonFan2012]

I have doubled in weight after starting meds. I seem 2 loose it though after I stop taking them for a bit. But always end up back on them. Its like I have a choice: be fat or be psychotic but the meds dont make everything go away the whole time so im fat and still minor problems it sucks good luck

[newtus]

Originally Posted by Erti

Should of say something along the lines of "I'm on medication that cause weight gain. what's your excuse?"

but see ive said that before.

Originally Posted by Erti

You and I are around the same weight! We should be weight loss buddies!

I drink way too much soda and I have a candy sweet tooth. I'm going to try to lose some weight this summer.

[newtus]

yea my moms comments does affect my compliance and the way she makes me see myself. i just told her today it puts too much pressure on me and she said she wouldnt say anything. so idk

[Erti]

Originally Posted by Cracking Slowly

I drink way too much soda and I have a candy sweet tooth. I'm going to try to lose some weight this summer.

I have the same problem. I drink way too much pop. I'm also on zyprexa which is notorious for weight gain. I too have a sweet tooth. Plus I never exercise. Bad combo.

[Crescent Moon]

Originally Posted by newtus

but see ive said that before.

Ok. Next time she brings up weight, here is your mantra: With firmness in your voice, say: "I love you but talking about weight is going to ruin our relationship. Don't ever speak of weight again. Period." Then change the conversation.

If she keeps talking about it, making excuses, justifying herself, etc., don't react. Look her straight in the eye and say the exact same thing you said. As many times as it takes for her to stop.

If she brings it up in future conversations, you can handle it a few different ways. Like on the phone, you can say: "If this conversation is going to be about weight, then this conversation will end. Now - should I hang up or would you like to talk about going to a movie?" If you are together, then do what you did the first time - say the same thing. Or keep repeating "Discussions about weight are not allowed." And change the subject.

If you stick to it,, and always stop it as soon as she 'goes there,' chances are she'll eventually stop, and she will walk away from it with a new respect for you for having set a healthy boundary. You will also feel better about yourself. Sometimes it is hard for parents to stop viewing us as children when we are grown. You need to set the boundary. She is not allowed to treat you in a way that you don't like. You are not obligated to accept it. You don't live with her, so you aren't trapped. You decided it was in your best interest to rely on your dad - not her. You don't owe it to her to let her blather on in a way that is harmful to you.

So don't ever let her get away with it, Newtus. Don't react with anger or hurt. Strong voice. Practice ahead of time so it comes out automatically.

That's your job today... get going working on that!

Originally Posted by Cracking Slowly

Newtus: At 129 you are NOT fat! I am 223. Now that is fat! Don't let your mom's comments get to you

I'm right around that weight too!

My problem with weight is the meds. I can gained bad on seroquel. I hate seroquel, lol. It's so frustrating bc yesterday I pigged out again.

Erti-idk how u do it on zyprexa, I was eating like crazy on that.

I didn't sleep well last night. Kept waking up. Kept having the same creepy dream.

Anybody on?

[justmeandmyhead]

*hugs* for everyone who's struggling

[justmeandmyhead]

Originally Posted by sunshine1995

I didn't sleep well last night. Kept waking up. Kept having the same creepy dream.

sorry you didn't sleep well

[justmeandmyhead]

Originally Posted by newtus

yea my moms comments does affect my compliance and the way she makes me see myself. i just told her today it puts too much pressure on me and she said she wouldnt say anything. so idk

I hope she stops with the comments they sound very damaging you shouldn't say things like that to people especially when your not even overweight in the first place

[newtus]

thanks crescent moon i will try to do that

[newtus]

Originally Posted by justmeandmyhead

I hope she stops with the comments they sound very damaging you shouldn't say things like that to people especially when your not even overweight in the first place

thanks yea im going to try to do what crescent moon said. hopefully shell stop

[newtus]

on the other hand i gotta look for a different therapist. this sucks

[newtus]

ive been takig my meds but its not working. i still feel paranoid. and have suicidal and homicidal thoughts. and other bad thoughts.