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Old Oct 02, 2011, 05:30 PM
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I am a 26 year old college student who daydreams too much. Why would I possibly want to daydream, wasting so much time, when there is so much more interesting and important work to do? I could benefit from studying to build knowledge in preparation for a job, but I find myself daydreaming about people who I feel dislike me. I am wishing for myself and others to have harmonious relationships, but that is just not reality. I come in contact with people who are different and can't get along with very well from time to time. I get discouraged when people don't like me because I have low self esteem. I always feel as if I'm a bad person because of a bad past that follows me everywhere I go. I just feel as if I can't be so easily forgiven. I won't talk about my past, but it is a very bad past that I do not want to easily reveal to others, especially those who will judge me and put me in a box. I want to be able to study and focus. What can I do to resolve the conflicts that propel me to daydream? Everytime I feel bad I resort to daydreaming as a solution to feel better. I leave that mental state of pain and escape into a fantasy that I create to feel better. I am disillusioned. I can't face reality. I have work to do. I can't waste another minute. I don't want to end up poor, feeding off others and burdening others. I want to make it on my own, but I need to get through school and gain skills that will allow me to work attentively and efficiently.I would appreciate all the tips and advice suggested regarding success in college education.

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Old Oct 02, 2011, 06:23 PM
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I have this same problem to some degree. The only advice I can give you is to try and set a goal that you will study for short periods of time. say you will read or do so many problems of your homework for like 10 minute periods and then reward yourself for getting that done. then add more and more time or more and more problems as you are able to focus for longer periods of time.
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Old Oct 06, 2011, 02:07 AM
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I daydream soooo much myself; things are so much better there!

I wish I had some good advice. I have to break things up into smaller chunks in order to stay on-task, but I need to finsh one thing entirely before I move on to another.
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Old Oct 07, 2011, 04:46 PM
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I daydream loads, beginning to become a problem (long story) and teachers dont realise that when i doodle, im trying to concentrate...
sometimes good to practise focussing on anything and then applying it to study - i use writing (sometimes produces interesting results...but yh...)
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Old Oct 10, 2011, 03:27 AM
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I have used the plan of 45 minutes of study, and 15 minutes of break to help refocus. Then getting up and getting a drink or something to snack on has been helpful in getting my thoughts redirected toward studying instead of wandering.
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