Overshadowed, as always

Hello cyber friends, I have come with yet another problem.

So, the school year is almost over and I have the best Journalism student of the semester award and a pricipal's honor roll, yet I feel sad. Why? Because no matter what I do, my brother is always better then me.
My brother got science student of the YEAR award and also has a principal's honor roll. Everyone loves him, I am reffered as 'Hey, it's the human caculator's sistor!'. Everytime they do that I think, 'What about me? I have a name, you know....'.
It stings, I am always overshadowed and my mother tries to be fair but I know that no matter how hard I try, I will always be in second place. He's a black belt, famous for being smart school, and socially, he's just better. I'm shy, a green belt, and smart, but not enough.
I wasn't born with talent...I always got bad grades in elementry school. He was born with it, smart from the start. He's also in a gifted class. If I was in a normal family, then I would be celebrating but because of my brother shoving his achievements in my face.... I feel sad. I want to cry, I'm ignored and overshadowed. No matter what I do, it's not enough. My mom favors him, she can't tell but it's clear in my eyes. I know she always thinks, 'If he can't do it, then no one can' or 'If he doesn't know what it is, then I doubt she'll (Me) know.' I know am jealous, but I tried so hard this year.... It hurts.

You have to quit comparing yourself with anyone else; your brother included. You aren't your brother! I'd be smug if I were called "the human calculator's sister" -- they don't know him as a person either and being a "human calculator" is not something I would ever want to be described as? I imagine it is people who interact with him more anyway and that is always going to be the case; his friends and acquaintances are not going to be yours.

Find interests of your own instead of just those that are "his". Do you really like karate? Did you try ballet or tai chi?

Even school grades; they do not matter, they are something outside us trying to measure us against "average" and when you get to working in the adult world, no one will know or care what grades you made or did not make. I flunked international economics in college, do you think less of me? No? Why not? Your brother would probably have aced the course. Do I care? No, because it is not something I need in my life. Yes, I went to summer school to make up the credits I needed but that too was part of my life and part of my tasks and I learned, grew, and (now :-) enjoyed living that part of my life too.

All sorts of things will come into your life and all your experiences will be totally different from your brother's. You are not growing up with your brother, you are growing up alongside him; your lives are totally different. He cannot be better than you at being you because you are the only you there is.

Perna's right. You can't compare yourself to your brother. It actually isn't fair to him, either.

Trust me, the older you get, the more you will see of the similarities between the two of you.

I am the youngest of 7 and have a twin who went on to get a medical degree. He struggled for years, but becasue I was so resentful of how I percieved he had been treated as a "favored" child, I wasn't there to help him in his time of stress and need. He could have died...ended his life. Thank God he didn't and we are speaking again, but we can never have those years back.

All of my siblings have struggled, but kept it quiet. Why? Becasue the pressure was on to be "perfect". Your brother is NO different from you. And he is NOT responsible for what other people call him. "Human ca;culator"? Do they even know he's HUMAN?

Please...please. Stop resenting him for being himself. Please...you are robbing yourself, and HIM, of something no mathematical equation or black belt can EVER replace---->YOU...his wonderful, smart, beautiful ::sister!!!

You are your own person and no one can take that away from you. Comparing yourself to him is only torture. If others continue to compare you to him, give them the shoulder. It's just words. Accomplish your own goals and do your own thing. Sooner or later others will notice YOUR accomplishments.