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I'm heading to college in August/September. I've lived a very sheltered life. I can't drive, cook, etc. Yes Yes...Spoiled I know. My mum also told me I do weird stuff in my sleep like talking, laughing, etc. I'm afraid my roommate might laugh! I'm scared what do I do. If I really wanted to dorm I HAVE to know how to drive so I can at least drive myself to the bus station downtown (the metro doesn't take me to the bus area or anywhere near it). What do I do. If I don't dorm I don't want to go to this college :/ but my main concern is that I might do silly things in my sleep (I might be talking about my crush for god's sake O_o and then everyone would know!) and driving (My first and only time attempting was when I was scared to death cause the dumb pigeon wouldn't move out of the way!!)
No mean answers please...I already am nervous about my future life >< I mean what are the chances of sleep walking and talking about your crush or how much you hate your roommate but have kept it a secret in your sleep. I wonder if it's like....nerves or something :/ |
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All I can say is of you do dorm with someone, be honest with him or her. There are educated folk out there who know about snoring, sleepwalking, night terrors, and sleep eating/talking.
If you are nervous about driving then look into mass transit as an option. |
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I am a internet person so I let my nerves get to me and read all about the strangest sleeping actions: sex with strangers, with self, eating a whole eating competition worth of food, etc. I have a bit of paranoia and the sleep sex scared me because im a virgin. At home my ma would sleep at like 4am (she's a internet bookwork and like to read late into the night) so I've always been ok...omg...i just realized how retarded my paranoid thoughts can be... O_o
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![]() Like the other poster said, try bringing it up with your roommate. I tend to pace a lot before going to bed, so I'll probably try to wean myself off of doing that, but, in the mean time, I might tell my future roommate that. Have you ever brought this up with a doctor? Your sleep talking problems and whatnot? |
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Yes, talk to your family doctor. That is a good place to start.
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Your doctor may be able to look at you sleep patterns and whether there are solutions to help with your sleep talking etc. It could also be a nervous thing that they could help you look at
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I think at some point you will have to deal with this problem or similar? I would work on your self esteem and practical problems a bit before going to college so they were not suich an issue? There are a lot of pigeons in the world who will not get out of the way and one cannot just avoid them or route one's life around them all the time.
Some of your sleep talking might be stress-related overflow from trying to solve these sorts of problems all day and needing nighttime to help too. The only time I talked in my sleep was like that; I was at a conference and was practicing the language I had to use to give a special speech. One thing I would convince myself of is that people often laugh because they enjoy things, not because they are mean and there is something wrong with you. It is about the novelty to them, not you and that you are providing it. One of my roommates in college sucked her thumb and looked very sweet and vulnerable; I tried to tell her that but, of course, made a hash of it and she was very very angry, etc. and it wrecked the little bit of relationship we had. Something may seem "obvious" to one person but not be to the other and when we are in our teens and 20s I found we are not very good at wording things yet or knowing when to say something and when not to? All that takes experience and often experience is painful? I think you will have to see if people laugh at you and what their laughter means and how best for you to respond? I was in my 50s when my roommate laughed at me for talking in my sleep so it was not at all traumatic but I found it funny too since it was unusual for me. I was not conscious so it was not "me" deciding to do that, etc. Anyone could have done it. My college roommate when I was 20/21 talked in her sleep but she had become a good friend, was comfortable with herself and knew she talked in her sleep and was not bothered by it or discussing it, etc. There are all sorts of different scenarios, use your imagination and think up a few that bother you and give them "endings" you like. I like watching "How I Met Your Mother" on TV, they are always giving each other a hard time and pointing out mistakes and bantering back and forth but you get the "whole" where each person is both criticized/made fun of and supported at the same time.
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I don't recommend dorm unless you have to. Not because of the the atmosphere (honestly your concern would probably just make your room-ate giggle if anything)--but because it's usually the most expensive part.
Can you learn to drive and commute? Perhaps join some clubs on campus and then go home? You'd not have to worry of this issue, while learning independence etc. |
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