I'm about to be kicked out of college.

I attended my college in September 2013, dropped out after 3 months as I wasn't able to cope with being in a college environment.

I have been attending since September 2014 and I like college. However, I'm struggling with it still. Specifically with one class - which has a massive number of people in it and the subject it's self is draining and dull and I lack the motivation to do the homework/work. So my attendance for that subject is around 60%. Not great, I know. But my other two subjects have a 80% (psychology) and 95% (law) and in both of those I am achieving A-B grades. We just had our report.

Last year, in the weeks before I dropped out/was kicked out - more a mutal agreement than anything - I recieved a letter saying; "You are invited to attend a support meeting with myself (head of A-Levels) and your progress tutor, on _____ (date)." Well, that 'support meeting' turned out to be a 'we don't think you're going to do well' meeting, and I just recieved the same letter today.

I'm sat in tears now. I don't know what to do. This was my last shot at A-Levels and I highly doubt university is an option for me if I have failed college twice and don't have any A-Levels. I'm so screwed. I can't stop panicking now, this makes me not want to go into college at all even though I'd just be proving their point.

Maybe if you attended all the classes in all your subjects then you would be doing better and wouldn't get kicked out....just a thought.

I'm not familiar with the UK system, but could you attend classes at a college with smaller class sizes? That sounds like it might be a problem for you. Also, do you see a counsellor? Have you mentioned any mental illnesses you may suffer from to see if you can get accommodations?

Finally, do you want to attend college? Many people don't and go into the trades, for instance. University is not the only road to success.

I failed college once. It sounds like the first time you dropped in advance (so you didn't fail), and this second time you're still a student. So I wouldn't take it as failure. If you don't have a therapist of some sort I would look for one (probably easier to find as a student, and more affordable), and discuss what to do.

It sounds like you don't want to give up. You're not at the end of the road yet.

I looked at some of your other threads and it looks like you're trying everything, but you're not receiving the support you need. I see it more as a failure of the system than a failure of yourself.

You mentioned 'emotionally unstable' as a diagnosis. That's the ICD diagnosis that correlates with the DSM diagnosis of borderline personality disorder. I don't know if you've read about it, but it's sadly one of the most stigmatized diagnoses. That could be a reason (albeit a horrible one) why you're not getting the help you need. I think it's best to try laying out everything on paper; I know what you mean by waiting for them to ask the right questions, but from personal experience, that rarely happens. It's tough, but you have to fight for yourself.

Keep going to class and prove them wrong. Having more people in the classroom helps me blend in and remain somewhat anonymous. It becomes an issue for me if the classroom is really small and everyone wants to know my name or break off into small group projects. Keep attending those classes and put your whole heart into it. Do not give up.

Dear K,

Although it is said that the past in an indicator of the future, however you should not extend events in the past to situations which are yet to happen and where you have the ability to make a contribution in changing the outcome.

Having said that, the good thing is you know your strong and weak points and all you need is to work on attendance (with better class participation) and be more regular in handing over your assignments.

From my own experience as a student, sometimes if you simply walk up to the tutors and explain to them your challenges and difficulties and seek their advice, it makes them feel respected and their concerns/comments about you acknowledged. With that, they can help you as well as turn a kind eye whilst evaluating your assignments/papers. It may or may not work, but courtesy, respect and some nice talk with teachers/superiors always bears good results.

And last of all and may be most importantly, as others have pointed out, you need to stand fast and give it all in... Once you have given all you have, then and only then you can succeed. God forbid, even if there is a failure/setback, you would know inside your heart that you did your best and there was nothing else that you could have done to make it any better.

Good luck and stand your ground kid!

I was kicked out, twice and I graduate at a different university in December. It's been hard but so worth it.

Hey Mr. You can always go back to college to compete with everyone. It's not about the A's or how many A's you get. It's about finding your own way, dude.