[LQ2015]

I really don't know whats wrong with me. I am dealing with things in my personal life, both family and relationship issues. I am 20 I turn 21 this year, I attend college and I am pretty sure I am going to fail every class I am enrolled in this semester. I do not want to fail, I want to have a high gpa and graduate! I would like to make my parents proud, and not waste my mom's money. However I haven't lived on campus since freshman year and I get lazier and lazier each year. I been on academic probation before, so I'm scared about this semester. I started it out strong, but missed ALL my classes for a month or 2. Just because I could not bring myself to leave the house or go. I would still do the work and even miss turning it in just because I didn't get to class in time. If I'm late to a class, I will just not go.

Ive been considering seeing the school counseling for some time but Im scared and embarrassed about talking to them or just thinking they really won't care.
I also plan on taking summer school (if they don't kick me out!) I really do not want to fail in college, I just cannot seem to find the motivation i had when I first started.

Being around other students who were motivated was always helpful for me. Study groups, roommates, etc.

Are your class lectures interesting or have those become stale, too?

[berthegel]

Hello lq2015 ,
please go to the college people , you may not need counseling , in the UK colleges they have people who work for the college , who can help you in lots of different ways , maybe time management , or breaking down your subjects and study hours into blocks , don't think about all of your subjects and taking final exams as one big massive thing , do they not let you do study and stuff at home ? , start now , look at your college work and try and see what can be done , even if its just to sort out study notes, or type up notes, or print offs , say if I knew that I had a lecture about quantum mechanics (lol) , tomorrow at 9am ,

I'd get my quantum mechanics folder ready , pens, dicatophone ( if your no good at taking notes)
Then have a bath and wash so your all ready to go in the morning (so you don't to rush about in the morning) , just having your stuff ready the night before a lecture can just make the next day less stressful, if you do take notes in a lecture , I found writing them up properly as soon as possible is better than leaving it till later .

Bye

[berthegel]

Can your boyfriend not give you some space even if its only a day ,
Could a family member your not having issues with help with your studying?
My neice is at school at the moment , if she was stuck I'd love to be able to help.

also eat properly on college days , bananas and fibre , not eating properly can ruin your day

[Miswimmy1]

Originally Posted by LQ2015

Ive been considering seeing the school counseling for some time but Im scared and embarrassed about talking to them or just thinking they really won't care.
I also plan on taking summer school (if they don't kick me out!) I really do not want to fail in college, I just cannot seem to find the motivation i had when I first started.

I have found that the most effect approach with academic administration is to be open and honest. If you have personal stuff going on right now, I would definitely recommend going to the counselor and explaining your situation. Believe me, they have heard it all. You might feel embarrassed but I would be very surprised if you said something that they haven't already heard from someone else. I know it probably feels like you are all alone though.

When you meet with them, it's important that you be clear about your desire to graduate and raise your grades. Professors look for the student to take initiative. If you go in with an attitude that says, "I'm willing to put the work in, and I need some guidance as to how to achieve X,Y,Z" , they are going to be a lot more understanding and flexible to work with you. If you plan on taking summer school, I would mention that. Make it known that you care about your academics and that you are trying to make a plan. That proactivity will go a long way. Lastly, I suggest going into that meeting knowing what your goals are. The conversation between you and the counselor should be a dialogue. In order for them to best assist you, they need to know how invested you are. Try to keep an open mind and don't be afraid to ask for help.

Good luck!

[LQ2015]

Originally Posted by jo_thorne

Being around other students who were motivated was always helpful for me. Study groups, roommates, etc.

Are your class lectures interesting or have those become stale, too?

Surprisingly MOST the time lectures can be interesting to me. I do have some classes where I just think the material is boring or the professor doesn't know how to present it in a more "interesting" way. But I do believe my problem was just the factor of me being lazy and easily giving up due to a lot that are stressing me out in my personal life. I am about to write a post about those issues too.

Your advice is also good, I am thinking that I need some motivating friends on campus. I literally know only about 2 people on campus because I worked a lot and no longer live there. Its like I have no time to socialize ugh.

[LQ2015]

Miswimmy1

Thanks to you too for your advice. I am late replying because I forgot my password to this site smh. lol. I did end up going to the counseling office at my university. The "intake counselor" recommends I see a therapist and do group therapy (That does not excite me since I am not really one to open up about my issues to random people, especially people who may see me around campus lol) But I am willing to try anything, I just do not want to be a failure and I know I am better than my academic progress.
I plan on going to my academic advisor tomorrow morning to further talk about summer classes and my current gpa.

do any of you think it will be helpful to post the issues I have going on in this forum to further assist me?? Its things with my family and relationship and friendships as well.