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Hello, guys! My depression keeps me from concentrating to my school work. Also, I have a crush on a class mate and it's making me lose my mind
Sooo.. Any suggestions? I really should keep my mind clear, since it is a very important period for my future. |
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#2
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Hello Clapper: The Skeezyks' suggestion is: find someone in real life to talk this through with.
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#3
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Well,i am afraid of confessing so big a secret to many friends.
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#4
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Tips (I hope this helps):
1) Set aside time for homework, but other than that, don't think about school 2) Focus on learning, as opposed to doing well in school 3) Talk to your crush, because it's distracting you, and you'll feel better acting on it |
#5
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I shall try, I have no choice. Thank you!
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#6
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Take a break!
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#7
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Wish it were that easy, wish it was a switch that I could press to make it that way.
How can I do that? |
#8
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Are you depressed or do you have a crush? Two different things in my mind.
The way I view it, you need to be accepted or rejected. Take action, and then there's less to worry/lose your mind about. The crush, you can work around. The depression, not so sure. I have to admit that my own grades have also started suffering from a crush where I did take action, did get rejected, and still obsessing about. I guess it's like any other addiction: tv, gaming, cell phone; you need to push it away for a certain time slot to get in quality work. |
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Yes, I have depression. Have been suffering for two years. Yes, I have a crush. Had it since December or so. I do some gaming, i admit, but I am sure it does not affect my work. Anyway, my interest has faded a bit, can't really enjoy gaming too much for some reason. TV only sometimes in the evening, and I use my phone within reasonable limits. I have other hobbies as well, like going to work out, watching movies, reading and doing archery. Lately, I started showing little interest in all. Not sure why, just feel like it's not worth it. I can't focus on the task everytime, because i am always thinking about what and why I feel certain feelings. Depression really takes its toll on me, and my recent crush just doesn't make things better, naturally. I shall try to do as you say. At best, I will have gained a girlfriend and things might improve. At worst, she will reject me, but then I will be able get over her with a clear conscience. Just not sure what do to or how to broach the subject. I am so distracted about all of these that I have to read 10 pages from my history book to understand one word. |
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I mentioned those addictions only as an analogy to being in love.
Depression is not like an addiction. You are right, depression sips so much energy and focus and makes simple things difficult. Sometimes there is a reason, a cause, for being depressed. If this is so, it is easy to solve. Sadly, sometimes there is no (apparent) reason. In that case I think you really need professional help to get through it. Two years is pretty long. I have been really depressed in the past for 2 months. That is intense and it gave me physical symptoms. While my grades have been suffering from my crush, my physical fitness for sure and my social interactions probably also, have improved. I try to give a positive twist to it. Ideally, you should use these mental crises as catalysts of change. But, often it is not obvious how. You don't give us much information about why you are depressed, what you enjoy in life, and what you have problems with. To me at least, it soothing to write it all down. It barely makes a stratch, but it is something. |
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Now, to the task at hand... Change.. It really has a ring to it. Perhaps I really need to change. Still not sure in what manner. Actually, I have been pursuing online therapy(through Skype) for the last 2 weeks. Desperate times call for desperate measures. Sure I would like some normal therapy, but for the time being, it is not possible. I shall have to wait another full year for it. Regarding the cause, well, not exactly sure what. There are many aspects that disturb me, if i really think about it. I had other crushes in the past faced rejection once and gotten over it. Nobody ever said I was ugly or unattractive, but many said that I am actually cute or quite handsome. Yet I am never happy with my physical appearence. I am quite skinny(don't lack muscles, though, i am quite a sports guy)and i just can't seem to better myself from this aspect. I am not very popular. Don't lack friends, have many acquaintances, but I feel like a failure in a social plan. I always stress for little things, i am easily hurt, and I feel like i am not an important part in anyone's life(except my parents) I feel alone, and sometimes I am under the impressions than nobody cares about me. Sure, i omitted some aspects for privacy reasons, but if you read all those things, you might think I have no right to be depressed. But I am. And it's not my choice. Sometimes, when I feel very, very bad, I find comfort in suicide thoughts, or having imaginary conversations with some friends about how and what I feel. Even go as far as planning a confession to those that are unfamiliar with my struggles. (Only one friend has a slight idea of my issues). Naturally, as I open my eyes with disappointment in the next morning, i feel relieved that i kept my mouth shut for another day. Shame or fear prevents me from confessing. |
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