Lack of Motivation/Skipping Class

I've gotten into a bad habit of skipping class this semester. Before I have to go to class I get a bad feeling in the pit of my stomach because I don't want to go. Once I get there it's fine but it's hard to get motivated to leave the house, it's so much simpler to just stay home. Maybe I should consider taking some online classes. IDK if anyone can relate but if you have any advice to get over that dread feeling let me know

Hi blue bird
Sending you good thoughts. i struggle with the same feelings about leaving the house in general. I hope you find a way to want to go to class so you can get a great education and find a career that you love going to each day!

Hello Blue_Bird: Well... I'm old enough that I'm not going to class anymore. (I guess some folks my age do...) But I certainly know the feeling you're talking about here. I feel it with pretty-much everything I do. I wish I had some secret I could share with you. I don't. In my case, I just make myself do whatever it is I have to do. And once I do it's generally okay. Many years ago, my father used to say: "You're not required to like it. You're just required to do it." I take that as my motto...

Perhaps there is something about school or going outside that makes you nervous?
In case you've never taken an online course,you should try to find out if its right for you.
As for skipping classes,you should choose a certain time of the day to take them,and create a schedule that best suits you. I prefer to take mine 2 days a week in the mornings..that way I'm getting them over with.

I see you are at Hogwarts. How are you going to become a great wizard by skipping Spells and Hexes class?

I had a class skipping habit in high school. In those days they let us get away with it. At least I was having fun with friends instead. Still, it wasn't a good idea.

I am assuming you are in college? You should really think about where these feelings are coming from and see a t. Your future is on the line.

I empathize with your feelings............what is making you feel that way? Are your grades bad? If your grades are poor, it doesn't mean your not smart.....it just means that you learn in a different way than "they" think you should......I know all about that, trust me. Colleges are really good at making accomodations these days. There are all kinds of learning resources and disability services for those who would like to access them.
Are you being bullied? If you are, you should talk to a trusted adult in your school that can help you sort through it all.
Really go deep and think about what's causing your lack of motivation. You can turn it around, you really can.
I don't want you to throw your dreams away. You can do this!

Sounds like anxiety is the problem, not lack of discipline or lack of motivation.

I can relate a bit with not feeling like going out and doing something, but having a decent, or even fun time, when you are somewhere. I don't know what it is. The pressure to have to go somewhere and be on time. The pressure of putting up a facade for others when you interact socially. But often it is appealing to decide to not go that specific day/week and spend the time alone instead.

I had that last thing as a very young child, and still have it as a high functional mature adult (at least I ought to be that), but it still stays with me, in some way.

I don't know if it is possible for you to identify it as anxiety, then get to the course and alleviate it a bit.

Thanks guys. Yes I'm in college, I guess it's anxiety. Maybe I should start taking my as needed anxiety med when it gets bad so I don't talk myself into skipping again. I used to be somewhat agoraphobic and I have a tendency to lean that way but I will work on it

I don't know if medication is a solution, or just something that alleviates some effects temporarily.

i have the same issue, its just more comfortable. i wasted probably already 2 years because of that

Hi Blue. I'm sorry you have this problem. I have school anxiety too for many years (luckily not at university), so I understand. But, I think it would be good for you to try to go...your meds could help, and also trying to think that when you arrive there it gets better (it happens also to me, my anxiety is especially before doing things or going to places). Also, trying to identify what exactly gives you anxiety (getting outised home? meeting people? something else?) and working on it.
Wish you good luck

I think you should make more friends in your class. May be it will encourage you to attend the class.

Ah yes! All to similar to most of my educational years.

First off, is trouble getting motivated because going to class is just not something you want to do (aka maybe you find it to be boring, etc.), or do you think it may be an underlining cause of something else?

If you're having to do what you'd rather not, then maybe you can find something to help get you motivated. For example, I'm terrible about getting out of bed in the morning, so when I set my alarm the night before I make sure to place my phone just far enough away from my bed so that I physically have to get up to turn it off. Maybe find something to do before class that is fun, or relaxes you so that you aren't as nervous. If you have time, maybe take a walk or exercise. Sometimes once we are up and moving its easier to do other things.

The reason I ask if it may be a small part of something else is because you mentioned you feel as if something bad is going to happen if you go to class. May I ask what do you feel will happen that is so bad? Could it be something like being around other people, or in another place, or do you feel panicked like this sudden dread has come over you? Sometimes these could be symptoms of an underlying anxiety or panic disorder. Since you say it's fine once you get there, there are helpful ways you can combat stress and anxiety (though I apologize for I cannot think of any off the top of my head right now). However, it keeps being a problem, or becomes too overwhelming, you may benefit from some professional help. Now, that doesn't necessarily mean a diagnosis, or medication, but talking to a school counselor, or a therapist can be a big help.

I hope you can find some relief soon. I was (and in some ways still am) dealing with a similar situation since middle school, and it can be extremely stressful, and frustraring. All the luck.