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Old May 24, 2017, 07:27 AM
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My last year at school is being so stressful, I don't know if I can take it anymore.. I will probably fail, I feel like I know absolutely nothing about every subject Even just going to school is becoming harder and harder.. I can't focus on my studies and homeworks at home.. how will I survive when I'll get out of school?

Could use some hugs.. sorry for the rant..
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Old May 24, 2017, 08:00 AM
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It can be hard to ask for help because it is embarrassing when we feel like we are not succeeding but I would let most of your teachers know about your dilemma. I say most because by this point in time you are probably aware of which teachers are sympathetic. Good teachers do what they can to help their students pass. They might provide tutoring or extra credit that will enable you to graduate. If one of your teachers is unfair in a way that could jeopardize graduation, perhaps talk to a school counselor, headmaster or some other school figure that can intercede.

Don't worry about your later life. Just figure out how to graduate--you do not want to go through this again. I have seen many students who did not get good grades make a very good living later (including kids from my son's generation). I think school grades are a good predictor for how you might perform in college if you immediately go. However, not everything we learn in school applies to real life. In the US, the people I know who make good livings without college are in the trades (construction, auto repair, etc) and/or own or work in their own (or their family's) business. In the high school I went to (admittedly times have changed) less than half of the boys went on to college. They tended to work on their parent's ranch, in their dad's backhoe (a type of construction) business, enlist in the military, etc.
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Old May 24, 2017, 08:05 AM
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Thank you, Hoping Teachers can only do so much.. they try their best to help their students but in the end it's up to them. I guess it's fair that way, but I'm still struggling with studying and all that. Not to mention, like you said, I'm embarassed to ask for help..
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Old May 24, 2017, 08:10 AM
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Thank you, Hoping Teachers can only do so much.. they try their best to help their students but in the end it's up to them. I guess it's fair that way, but I'm still struggling with studying and all that. Not to mention, like you said, I'm embarassed to ask for help..
Maybe if you think about how awful it would be stay in school longer it will motivate you. Try to just ask one teacher--if that goes well, maybe you will have the courage to tell others about your problem. You can do it!!
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Old May 24, 2017, 08:13 AM
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Thank you, Hoping Teachers can only do so much.. they try their best to help their students but in the end it's up to them. I guess it's fair that way, but I'm still struggling with studying and all that. Not to mention, like you said, I'm embarassed to ask for help..
PS--Take a break from being so helpful here. You are an awesome, sympathetic listener but it takes time to read and respond to other people's PC posts.....(I am not talking about your thread--it might help you--I am talking about reading other people's new threads.)
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Old May 26, 2017, 02:36 AM
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Just wanted to drop in and lend some support. If you ever feel like it's getting too much for you, feel free to message me. I can connect to studies being overwhelming. It's not easy, and life on top of it makes for a rough time sometimes. What are you studying at the moment? What do you have trouble focusing on? What do you wish you were doing instead? lol. Just curious. I'm a professional student. lol. So, if you ever need an ear, some encouragement, or just to rant, like I said, my door is always open! Sending you positive vibes, and best wishes!!
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Old May 26, 2017, 08:02 AM
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Thank you a lot I'm studying IT at the moment.. I don't like it. But I struggle with focusing on all the subjects.

Thank you again for the kind words
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Old May 27, 2017, 10:47 AM
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Kind of remind me of my last year in uni. I was struggling too, I thought to failed and spent another semester or probably dropped out.

*Hugs* last year always the hardest. Just do your best and what you can do, don't think whether it is bad or good enough!
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Old May 27, 2017, 11:13 AM
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Thank you a lot I'm studying IT at the moment.. I don't like it. But I struggle with focusing on all the subjects.

Thank you again for the kind words
(((Mickey))) IT - you have my sympathy! I once told an employer, "oh yes, ive taken LOTS of database classes!" I didnt explain that i had to take the same class 3 times before i passed it. But i eventually became quite the expert. Eventually! It helps to have an excellent tutor, someone who can really explain things to you in a way that makes sense. Kind of like a good t!
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Old May 28, 2017, 03:23 AM
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Thank you, Hoping Teachers can only do so much.. they try their best to help their students but in the end it's up to them. I guess it's fair that way, but I'm still struggling with studying and all that. Not to mention, like you said, I'm embarassed to ask for help..
Don't be embarrassed to ask for help. My daughter struggled with that when she started having focus and concentration issues from her depression. She did make it through her senior year.

I was very concerned about one class, since she had been doing so well but got behind when she was hospitalized. I reached out to her teacher a few weeks before graduation and asked him what she needed to do to pass the course (it was one of two she needed to graduate, the others were all extra college courses) and he responded back that, "I will not let her fail." He gave her extra time to get her work in, and she pulled through it.
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Old May 28, 2017, 06:38 PM
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/| /| What reb said!!

My daughter was very reticent about asking for help; felt that it was a lack on her part or she wouldn't need help. Not So -- altho I was the same at her age.

Many hugs, Mickster. You are quite wonderful, y'know?

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Old May 29, 2017, 06:05 PM
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You did nothing wrong at all, I am only 15 and probably can't help but if there is anything I can do to help you understand anything please let me know. And also I also struggle in school and I'm okay so I bet you will be okay too. Also, you are more than your grades, and I know it sounds so scary now, but you'll be able to do this. You are so much more than the grades on a paper, you are a whole amazing human being. But I struggle too and I was able to beat it, I am sure with enough effort you can overcome this big obstacle, whether you must climb through it or go over it or under it, or right through it, I believe in your ability to totally smash it. I believe in you. And I also send hugs. Good luck!
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Old Jun 08, 2017, 03:26 AM
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Sorry, guys, I'm noticing your replies only now..

But I wanted to thank anyone who has replied here - thank you all for the kind, supportive words. They help a lot. Wish the best to all of you..
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Old Jun 08, 2017, 03:21 PM
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My daughter failed two classes her senior year. She did an online summer school and finished up in two weeks. She's working on an Associates degree in sign language interpreter. She failed her math class but will be retaking it soon.

I don't know about Italy but in the US there's usually a school counselor or a disability office at the school (for college anyway).
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Old Jun 09, 2017, 02:34 AM
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Thank you I don't really know if we have those here.. a bit too late, anyway, school is over now (but I still have my exams..)
I'm happy your daughter is doing well
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Old Jun 09, 2017, 03:39 AM
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dai Mickey, gli esami sono un grande stress.anche io ricordo che non ricordavo nulla di nessuna materia...ma poi quando passeranno, come andranno andranno, ti sentirai più libero.
ora credo tu abbia un paio di settimane di tempo. fatti un planning di quello che devi ripetere e, se hai degli argomenti che non hai capito, chiedi aiuto a qualcuno di classe anche se non lo hai frequentato durante l'anno oppure dici ai tuoi genitori che hai bisogno di supporto in questo momento, ora è il momento che capiscano il tuo stato di stress e ti diano supporto. poi se hai bisogno di qualcosa io sono a disposizione.
non ti abbattere e fai il possibile per fare quello che devi, poi del risultato non te ne curare , l'importante è che ci provi.
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Old Jun 09, 2017, 06:32 AM
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Old Jun 12, 2017, 08:46 PM
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You are embarrassed to ask for help. Did you know many people are? Embarrassed or not, please do it. You can get through this--take one step at a time.

I think it's important to ask for help. If you fall out but didn't ask for help, the instructor may think you are just blowing it off. But if you ask for help and convey that you are struggling, they might appreciate how hard you are trying.

Many people struggle the first and last years. Transitions are tough. Hang in there.
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Old Jun 19, 2017, 02:51 PM
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My last year at school is being so stressful, I don't know if I can take it anymore.. I will probably fail, I feel like I know absolutely nothing about every subject Even just going to school is becoming harder and harder.. I can't focus on my studies and homeworks at home.. how will I survive when I'll get out of school?

Could use some hugs.. sorry for the rant..
Do not believe the old men who drink at bars who say "school is the best days of your life" or "if you like school you will like work"
It is all bulls"£t. If it's getting on top of you take a step back and take time out
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Old Jun 20, 2017, 04:28 AM
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Enroll in tutoring classes. All the problems that you encounter will be taken care of by the teachers. It will definitely help you.
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Old Jun 22, 2017, 04:36 PM
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ciao. come stanno andando gli esami? resisti, sei già alla terza prova . forza e coraggio mickey!!!!
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