comparing yourself to others

please help me with this.

i keep comparing myself to other people- weather it's.. that person can get out the house, or that person has family, that person has a happy life, that person has something i don't,

how can i just be content with what i've got

anyone have tips on this, because it drives me crazy that i can't be content with any part of life, and though my life's far from perfict, surely this isn't that normal?. (or it is, bbut not to such an extreme?)

One thing that I try to do is keep a gratitude journal, listing 3 things that I'm grateful for every day. It really helps keep your perspective on the right track.

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I think it is normal to have expectations for yourself. I used to have really high expectations for myself and I was upset if I made a mistake.

I think comparison is normal for everyone, but you're right that when it gets extreme there's a problem. Because I also think that comparison is a death trap. You set yourself up for failure because you're comparing your life to someone else's and you both are unique to your journey and path in life.

Those same people may look at you and think, "I wish I was _____________ like them."

I like to challenge myself to think about what that thing is and try to focus on that positive.

For instance, I used to compare myself to my sisters and where they are at in life. They have children and I don't. I used to think/hope/wish for a baby, but couldn't have one. I confided this struggle with my oldest sister and she said that she has always wished to have a marriage like mine. So the whole time we were both comparing and wishing for each other's life. I've learned to love that I have a really solid relationship with my husband. And accept that I can't have kids naturally. But it was only by seeing my life from the outside looking in that I was able to start being thankful and content.

In my opinion, contentment comes when you make peace with what you do have and set goals for what you want to have. Then you can take the steps to get there slowly but surely.

Best of luck to you!

Mrs J

I know what you mean. This puts it all into perspective:
Facebook stalking my more successful friends

i used to journal (still do at times), but never from that perspective.

i think i should try to do that.

thanks