[ravenjade]

how do I start to set goals and stick to them? I can wright down all the things I want to do and I get overwhelmed before I even start

[htoun]

Start with small easy short term goals, and then grow from there.

This is a good question Ravenjade. I struggle with the same thing. I think Htoun is right. I've also heard its best to narrow down goals and pick just one or two at the moment.

[Lost_in_the_woods]

I sometimes even break them down into steps. So if I do not accomplish the full task, I can still look at what is crossed off and feel some accomplishment! List making is my life
-Holly♡

[Yzen]

I saw an article on PC about using questions instead of statements as resolutions. So, instead of saying "I will get 20 minutes of exercise each day", you phrase it in a question:"How can I find ways to exercise 20 minutes each day?". For me, forming it in a question is more motivating because it is a continuous goal that I am working towards and not an absolute statement that suggests a pass/fail.

Originally Posted by Yzen

I saw an article on PC about using questions instead of statements as resolutions. So, instead of saying "I will get 20 minutes of exercise each day", you phrase it in a question:"How can I find ways to exercise 20 minutes each day?". For me, forming it in a question is more motivating because it is a continuous goal that I am working towards and not an absolute statement that suggests a pass/fail.

I love this idea.

[Yzen]

Another problem I have run into when trying to meet goals is how to deal with guilt. When you fail to do something towards your goal, you have the tendency to want to criticize and beat up yourself over it. Don't do it! It makes you feel guilty and makes you start getting in a "what's the use" mindset that will cause you to abandon the goal.

Be kind to yourself if you have a mishap and get off track. Don't criticize yourself and make yourself feel guilty about it. Guilt pushes you down right when you need to go up. Tell yourself that meeting a goal is a process of ups and downs and it is ok to have a mishap. Tell yourself you will work on moving back "up" from this moment on.

[missbelle]

Originally Posted by ravenjade

how do I start to set goals and stick to them? I can wright down all the things I want to do and I get overwhelmed before I even start

Hi;
Hope you are still concerned about setting goals. I think just start with one small goal....It would be really easy to get overwhelmed. I would!!!!! So if maybe you eat at night like I do maybe setting a goal of a piece of fruit at 9p.m might be an example...something small to start with.....
If like me you spend too much....because I get depressed..vow that four days a week you won't shop and the other three shop with so much money in your wallet.......just narrow it down for now to one goal only and continue to follow that..then you can work later on adding another.....the last thing you want is for this to create anxiety.....
Hope this helps a little!!

Dee

[ReptileInYourHead]

Hey raven.
Goals are things we find difficult to do otherwise it would not be a goal it would just be something we are doing.
The things we find difficult to do vary between every individual, so it is not realistic to set yourself against any standards.
The first step is to abandon the guilt associated with failing, otherwise the fear of failure will hinder our attempts at success greatly.
IMO your first goal would be to accept failure, every time you fail it is an opportunity to observe the psychic forces that sabotaged your attempt.

~do no fear failure, failure is a symptom of fear~