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May 26, 2009, 05:59 PM
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I have not cut myself in over 5 years. And before that it had been about 6 or 7 years. I had a rough spot 5 or so years ago and relapsed with cutting as well as other SI behaviors. Since then I have only done mild things, plucking leg hairs one at a time or bruising just a bit by hitting or punching myself. Recently I have been having a problem with memories and feeling like that again, and it was my birthday on top of everything, and so I waxed my legs(acceptable form or SI), which did help a bit. The thing I realized is that about 2.5 years ago, I started taking my frustrtions out on my kids instead of hurting myself because my daughter was starting to hit herself like me, so I stopped hurting myself but found myself yelling all the time since then. So now with this new urge to SI again, I am thinking if I go ahead and do it, it might help with the yelling too. But I don't want to get caught in a pattern that I can't break either. So I need some help and advice with this. I guess I am looking for alternatives to SI that might give the same result of releasing the overwhelming feelings as well decrease the anger and yelling at my kids. I also have numerous scars that are still very visable even 20 years after the fact, many required stitches and some should have been but weren't, and so I don't want that sort of thing to spiral out of control again either because my body has enough scars on it already. Well, thanks for any help anyone can provide.
Last edited by Piper16; May 26, 2009 at 09:12 PM. |
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May 27, 2009, 07:51 AM
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Piper, I would suggest therapy so that you can learn how to deal with your feelings. If your daughter was starting to hit herself this might mean that she isn't learning how to deal with her feelings either. We are taught how to do this so maybe if you learn you can teach your child a better way.............
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May 27, 2009, 04:09 PM
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Ugh, yeah, join the club. Just when you think you've learned other ways to deal with things, your stress level gets upped and you're back to wondering if you should hurt yourself because you've run out of other ways to cope...
I wonder whether you might be like me, and your stress level has recently gone up and outrun your coping skills? If so, you might be able to solve the problem by lowering the stress level or learning some new ways to deal with it. I don't know. But that's how I'm going to attack it, anyway. |
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May 27, 2009, 08:03 PM
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Thanks, I will do that, I am in therapy and will bring it up more at my next session. Unfortunately my daughter is not good with feelings at all, she is autistic and so tends to copy behaviors of anyone around her. I wish I could teach her better, but she does get TSS and BHC services that do help her some. |
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May 27, 2009, 08:04 PM
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Thanks my stress level has gone up and I will try your suggestions.
"Ugh, yeah, join the club. Just when you think you've learned other ways to deal with things, your stress level gets upped and you're back to wondering if you should hurt yourself because you've run out of other ways to cope... I wonder whether you might be like me, and your stress level has recently gone up and outrun your coping skills? If so, you might be able to solve the problem by lowering the stress level or learning some new ways to deal with it. I don't know. But that's how I'm going to attack it, anyway." |
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May 28, 2009, 12:31 PM
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Does talking about your feelings help?
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May 29, 2009, 12:54 PM
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I am not good with feelings and neither is my daughter due to her autism. I am sure I don't help her much. I did talk to my T about wanting to cut and she said SI is just a habit, like any habit, it is what I have always done, so that is why I want to do it again. She said I need to replace it with new things, so I am trying that. |
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#8
May 30, 2009, 11:17 AM
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So your T never discussed how people SI because they don't know how to deal with their feelings? Learning how to deal with your feelings is how you stop SI.
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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#9
Jun 01, 2009, 11:10 PM
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Don't go back to cutting. It is not a better solution than yelling, it's just a different one. The first step before the fall is trying to justify the cutting. Definitely seeing a T is good. I go every week or two depending on her schedule. Same as you, I haven't cut in a long time, but I still crave it and have occasionally done minor SI in other forms. Just remember that in the long run SI will not help anyone.
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