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I am thinking about getting a punch bag and gloves !!!
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Old Jun 05, 2014, 08:38 PM
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I'm new here. I have Bipolar 2 and Trich. One thing that has worked for me with my hair pulling is Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). The counselor I used moved away. But, it worked a good year. When I went to see the guy counselor he suggested he demonstrate it on something simple like biting my nails. I said no! I wanted to do it for my hair pulling, I was desperate! So we did. He teaches how to follow up and refresh at home. It's basically saying a positive statement touching pressure points like used in acupuncture.
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Old Jun 15, 2014, 07:23 PM
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Halliebeth,
Yes those are the things I do when I feel like hurting myself. Another thing is doing the DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy). That been a real help for me. I use it practically every day.

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Old Jun 17, 2014, 05:34 PM
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Workout. Get yourself a proper, healthy burn! The burn of some weights or some decent floor exercises. Not only will you look better, get out your frustrations, but you'll also feel better, too! Screw SH; that does nothing for you, except give you yet more ruddy problems. Be nice to your body - you only get one.

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Old Jul 09, 2014, 04:55 PM
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Make a reassuring and reminding recording to listen to in that moment if it's to occur.


In the past, I've sent a short voice recording or two, to my LDG, to help calm her down, when She was having a moment like this.
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Hey thank you so much for your advice
I am greatful that so many people care but i am past recovery
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Old Aug 27, 2014, 11:52 PM
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i make "calm jars", technically they're just snow globes. but they're fun to make, nice to look at, and actually have a purpose (it's a self harm prevention project!)
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Old Nov 01, 2014, 03:58 PM
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Rub IcyHot on the inside of your forearms for an intense sensation that doesn't cause injury (you can also use ice or an ice pack).

If it is the right season, and you haven't had one yet, go to the pharmacy and get your annual flu shot. )
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Old Nov 24, 2014, 04:54 PM
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Here's my list of things, I no longer have self harm urges but they help with anxiety and have helped get me through my urges I used to have.

-Color
-Draw
-Arts and Crafts
-Write in your Journal
-Play Solitaire
-Play a card/board game with family or friends
-Take a walk
-Eat a treat (chocolate, but not as far as comfort eating)
-Drink Chamomile tea or any of your favorite teas as they're calming. Or cocoa.
-Do a word search puzzle or crossword
-Read a good book
-Take a hot shower (not scalding hot)
-Talk to a friend or family member
-Play with your pet(s)
-Use a stress ball or something like that
-Buy nice smelling candles or wax melts for your room and use them (if you don't burn yourself intentionally)
-Read/work through a self help book.
-Post on a forum
-Play forum games
-Use your prn meds (if you're prescribed them for anxiety, etc) only if you really need to and if you've tried at least a few other coping methods.
-Play a video game or a fun app
-Watch a happy movie
-Take a nap
-Blog
-Clean your room or any room in your house.
-Listen to relaxing music
-Do some relaxation exercises (Deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, etc)
-Practice Mindfulness
-Do some Yoga
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Old Dec 04, 2014, 11:09 PM
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Not sure if this went on here yet, but I find that drawing on my arm over my scars helps a lot. It makes my arm look pretty and I wouldn't want to hurt something pretty... It also distracts me and covers up the reminders of previous SI, which helps.

I also find that when I get the urge I freeze. Cuz I know that if I let myself move then I'm gonna cut. Tonight I got it and froze in a really uncomfortable position. And then I called my friend and asked her to talk to me while I got up and got ready for bed... And didn't hang up till I was in bed in the dark. It worked pretty well! I also had planned what I was going to do once I stood up. No room for other stuff
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Old Dec 14, 2014, 09:37 PM
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WOW! That is a long list! I am going to copy and paste into a document and put it somewhere helpful.

I normally break something when I want to injure myself.But, now I have to break the habit of breaking things! And come up with something less expensive and more positive.

Your list will be very helpful.
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deep breathing

relaxation techniques

call a friend, your therapist or a crisis line

try not be be alone (visit a friend, go shopping, etc.)

take a hot bath

listen to music

go for a walk

write in a journal

some people find it helpful to draw red lines on themselves with washable markers instead of cutting themselves

hold ice cubes in your hands - the cold causes pain in your hands, but it is not dangerous or harmful (some people find it relieves the urge to harm themselves for that moment)

punching a bed or a pillow (when nothing but a physical outlet for your anger and frustration will work).

scratch draw a picture on a thick piece of wood or use a screw driver and stab at the piece of wood. (can be another physical way to release your emotions without harming yourself.)

avoid temptation (i.e. avoiding the area in CVS where the razor blades are kept, etc.)

try to find your own creative ways as outlets for emotions.

learn to confront others/making your own feelings known instead of keeping them inside

go outside and scream and yell

take up a sport (a form of exercise can help you release tension, etc.)

work with paint, clay, play-doo, etc. (the person who suggested this mentioned that they would make a big sculpture and do whatever they wanted to it. They said it was helpful to calm the urge to self-injure, plus it gave them some idea of what might be underlying the pain.

draw a picture of what or who is making you angry
instead of harming yourself, try massaging the area you want to harm with massage oils or creams, reminding yourself that you are special and you deserve to treat yourself and your body with love and respect

go to church or your place of worship
wear a pipe cleaner or something that will fit on the places that you injure.

break the object that you use to self-injure as a way to show that you have control over it.

write a letter to the person(s) that have hurt you and express how they made you feel. Theses letters do not have to be in perfect form and you do not have to please anyone but yourself. You do not have to give these letters to the people, but it is a great way to release the feelings that you are carrying within. After you write the letters, you can decide then what to do with them. Some people find destroying the letters help (i.e. tear them up, throw them in a lake, etc.)

do some household chores (i.e. cleaning)

do some cooking

try some sewing, crossstitch, etc.

recite a poem, prayer or anything else familiar the comforts you multiple times

write down all your positive points and why you do not deserve to be hurt

write in your journal why you want to hurt yourself and if you have hurt yourself, write down what caused it to happen so in the future you can prevent it from happenings - or find out what your triggers were

Play some kind of musical instrument. Even if you don't really know how to play, picking out tunes is a way to concentrate and help get rid of the urge to harm yourself.

yoga

allow yourself to cry. Getting the tears out can make you feel better. It allows the inside to release, as opposed to self abuse. Picture your "ickies" pouring out as you cry.

Take a shower

write down a word best associated with what you are feeling (i.e. horrible, sad, lonely, angry) and continue to write it down, over and over. Sometimes when you do that, the words looks silly etc., and it puts humor or a smile in your life.

sing a song on what you are feeling. It's another way to get it outside. Shout if you are made, etc. Let the words just come to you.

Scribble on paper. Clutch the pen in your fist. It's a way to diffuse it on to paper. (Get a few sheets so they don't tear.)

Take item you are self injurying with and use it against something else. For example, if you are using a razor blade, rip it across a towel. Sometimes seeing what "can" be done to an object can make a person think twice about using it on themselves. Can also give the feeling of "doing it"...the tangible aspect.

Make a list of reasons why you are going to stop cutting. Every time you get the urge, read the list to remind yourself why you shouldn't. Also remember to put on that list that you do not deserve to hurt yourself. You are important and special and you do not deserve to be hurt.

Concentrate on your breathing - take slow, deep breaths, in through your nose, out through your mouth

Take a bubble bath

Take a shower

Massage your body, put body glitter / fake tattoos / jewellery / henna on your skin. Remind yourself your body is special.

Go for a walk

Listen / dance / sing to positive music

Pay attention to your body - think about how you are moving

Watch some mindless tv / read a book

Do something creative - eg draw, write poetry, play with playdough, practise a musical instrument, sing, do some gardening, write in a diary

Make something (craft, needlework, etc.)

Make a compliation tape. Start with music that expresses your emotion *now*, and work gradually through neutral to positive and upbeat music.

Do something FUN!!!

Make yourself as comfortable as possible - curl up in a chair with soft toys

Touch something familiar/safe

Carry tokens to remind you of peaceful comforting things/people

Create and use mental safe places (beach, cabin in the woods, peaceful mountain)

Repetitive reality checking (It's March 2003, and I'm going to be ok)

Ask yourself how you feel, think about why you feel like that, and write it down

Notice and avoid black and white thinking

Allow yourself to cry

Allow yourself to ask for help and express your feelings.

Use washable red markers to "cut" on your skin

Place your hands in freezing cold water, or hold / suck ice cubes

Wear an elastic band around wrist and snap it when you have the urge to harm yourself

Tear up paper (old phonebooks, newspapers, etc.)

Alternative between cuddling and punching something soft, the bed or a pillow

Plan regular activities for your most difficult time of day

Clean the house

Leave the room

Talk to someone safe - via email, phone, in person - try not to isolate yourself.

Help someone around you (reach out on a bulletin board, newsgroup, phone list etc.)

Go to church or your place of worship; pray or meditate
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no worries rap....whats mine is everyones!!!! hope this helps!
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Old Jan 20, 2015, 12:22 PM
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Hm, I usually lie down and close my eyes so that I can't see or find anything sharp to get at myself with. It also makes me feel brave because I know I'm taking the bull by the horns here. It often takes me about 20 mins, but after that the worst of the urge is gone.

Doing things usually isn't a good idea for me because anything I see that I could use just tempts me more. So I just block everything out.

My psych also suggested blowing up balloons and letting out the air slowly with that squeaky noise! If either these things helps anyone, I'm sending out my love and respect for you.
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Not sure if it was mentioned already but the idea with holding an ice cube until it melts, for anyone who "needs to see the blood" make ice cubes with red dye so when it does melt it gives that appearance and satisfies that urge. It helps me anyway when I need to get to that point. Otherwise definitely music, baths, petting my dog, taking pictures, body scan, and love bubble wrap as silly as it sounds, pinky promises are important to me so I pinky promise my T every week.
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I used to draw on myself where ever I felt the urge to cut,
I started with sharp-point red pens, and then I'd go to ballpoint pens, to washable markers, I'd draw swirls or lines, or words, or anything, just to get it out. I also used to go for walks in the middle of the night, just to clear my head..
It helped a lot and ultimately I no longer feel that urge.

Good luck to you all, much respect to you.
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I used to draw on myself where ever I felt the urge to cut,
I started with sharp-point red pens, and then I'd go to ballpoint pens, to washable markers, I'd draw swirls or lines, or words, or anything, just to get it out. I also used to go for walks in the middle of the night, just to clear my head..
It helped a lot and ultimately I no longer feel that urge.

Good luck to you all, much respect to you.
Drawing where you want to cut is an interesting idea that will have to try. I used to go for walks in the middle of the night too, except when I did, I usually felt suicidal, as opposed to just injuring myself.

Often time I write a story. I know it's super generic and some people might think it's dumb but it has helped me a lot since I started writing. Sometimes I only really produce gibberish, but it feels like a good way to prevent it.

Additionally part of my SH was that I wanted to have something to show for my emotions, so this helped with that as well.
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My SI method of choice is to
Possible trigger:
What sometimes helps is to write said words on my leg.

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Do a DBT chain analysis.
Crochet or do a hobby.
Call a friend.
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My SI method of choice is to
Possible trigger:
What sometimes helps is to write said words on my leg.
I do the same thing sometimes. Thanks for the idea!
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Get colorful markers and draw
loving pictures and phrases to
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- Write whatever is making you want to self-harm on a piece of paper, then tear it to shreds, cut it up, etc.

- Scribble on paper until it's black.

- Pop bubble wrap.

- Have a pillow fight with a wall or door.

- Flatten aluminum cans.

- Throw ice cubes at the sink, bath tub, tree, etc.

- The Calm Jar: Fill a mason jar or similar with colored water and glitter. When feeling upset or angry you can shake it to disturb the glitter and focus on that until the glitter settles.

Hope this helps.
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CANDC posted this in another forum but I thought it was a good link and would be helpful here - so I em......borrowed it ;-)
Self-Harm: The Myths & the Facts | Embracing Balance
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I also compulsively scratch my head and scratch my nails. As well as strong impulse to SI in times of high emotion. Whats been helping the last few months is hand cream. Every time I want to do something destructive with my hands I put on hand cream. I have a lavender scented one which is quite soothing and a few others around too. I also got this massage bar from Lush and rub that between my hands. Sometimes I use a little on my shoulders too. I think self-massage reduces cortisol so...
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tear something up, such as blank paper or an old book you don't use
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Self-Harm: The Myths & the Facts | Embracing Balance
Good article. She doesn't mention the solution I am now trying: Get out of the bad situation that is so upsetting that it is triggering you to self harm!
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