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This post contains some bad news--possibly triggering news--but it also contains good news.
![]() I slipped up yesterday... I was up late last night facebooking, and this guy that I had met and never really talked to much just suddenly asks me if I want to do anything later on that day (it was 2 am). Well I agreed--it wasn't weird or sudden because we had met via dating application, so the question was expected eventually--but during that time I had felt pretty out of control of my emotions--have been for a while, so very soon after I regretted making such a stupid, impulsive decision, since I had never even met this guy, or even talk to him often. I was suddenly very anxious about the whole deal, and I had been feelin pretty anxious the rest of the week anyway--it had just been building up and I've been holding it in, so i was convinced if I didn't do something to stop this down-spiraling issue--and I was mentally punishing myself about it--I would have a sh***y, incredibly weird, anxious, awkward night and I might feel even more out of control and seem like a total spaz on the first date. so i knew it was probably bad for me, but I just needed it to level out before I met up with him, and to be perfectly honest, I don't regret it. At all. I mean, yes, there is a bit of guilt for it, but it didn't come til much later, and i would NEVER have done it differently. After I cut--and I've noticed that I'm able to cut a bit deeper, more easily recently, and I think I'm making more and more cuts each time--as I watched all the blood run down my leg, I felt SO much better, so much in control, I felt like I was a different person almost, like I was one who could control herself--almost powerful, to a degree. I was ready to tackle this date head-on, and I did. I definitely believe it helped me last night, it had a visibly practical, useful purpose, and i say it outweighs the guilt for this slip-up. I had a VERY exciting night. ![]()
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I do not buy it for a nanosecond.
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buy what?
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"I definitely believe it helped me last night, it had a visibly practical, useful purpose, and i say it outweighs the guilt for this slip-up. I had a VERY exciting night.
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(((((((((paintingravens)))))))))))))
Question: In the future, would you consider finding another more healthy way to deal with your emotions and stressors, rather than engaging in self injury or cutting? What is the good news in this post? How was your date? Do you have a therapist at all? Or a doctor? If you don't have a therapist, PLEASE find one that can help you to deal with this in a better manner. Quote:
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I know I may sound harsh, but I'm doing it out of love and caring for you. I was in the same spot, and it is not a healthy nor good place to be. Please don't put your life in danger, you deserve more than that.
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![]() I never said I was able to just walk away... I know it's very hard to stop, and I wish I had never started, but I feel like it really helped me out that night. I mean, I know it's not good, but it DOES serve a purpose for us who self-injure--it's usually why we keep doing it. All I'm sayin is that it definitely served its purpose friday night. I didn't really cut all that deeply, just a bit deeper than usual, and I always try to keep the cuts cleaned. I really appreciate everyone caring, and I'm still trying to figure stuff out... I set an appointment with the campus counselor for wednesday. Hopefully session 2 will be better than session 1...
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sorry , but from one cutter to another, that is one hell of a rationalization!
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I think that your outcome - the date - was so good that it has colored over everything else.............. (I'm glad that you had a good date!)
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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hi paitingravens.....
i very much appreciate your post. it got me to think again about listening to my gut. i have did and i recently signed up to a dating thing and i still self harm. my gut has been telling me im not ready to date again. because i would probably be so stressed that i would have strong urges to self harm. and if i feel that need still then that need to selfharm is telling me im not ready to date. maybe im rambling i hope that your counseling session went well...........................kasva |
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