[Miss_A]

My friend is having trouble with her friends as some of them have fell out with her. It's not her fault she did nothing wrong. But some of them have said she has changed but to me she hasn't. If she did then they have too. I really feel sorry for her. But she told me that shes been self harming again. I want to help her but I know I can't tell. I'm going to email right now to try and convice her to see a consellor about it. I don't want to push her because she has been through so much and so have I! Had a good day today at school mainly because know one brang me down. But for her, her so called friends are teasing her. Also stayed with her for 10 minutes at break. But had to go because I normally go outside with my other mates. I asked her if she wants to come outside and hang around with us. But she rather stay here alone, If anyone got any advice for me to help her. Please say just I can't say because I respect that she wants privcey about it.

[hereiam]

I think you have the right idea when you say you're going to e-mail her about the option of counselling. Let her know that it's a great thing, and she doesn't have to immediately step in there and scream "I cut!" or self-harm or whatever. Let her know baby steps are the key, and she might find it helpful even if she chooses not to speak about her self harm.

You're a good friend for caring, remind her that you'll always be there for her.

[Miss_A]

Thanks just its really triggering for my to hear this and see her scars. I feel like I need to do it myself but I won't because I dunno!

[Rapunzel]

You don't know why you won't go to counseling? That might be something to think about before trying to talk your friend into going. It's kind-of hard to ask someone else to do something and have much credibility if you aren't willing to do it yourself.

Counseling is scary to start up - especially that first step - getting started. But after that it's nice, and it really helps. It really feels good to have someone understand you and accept who you are, and help you to reach your potential. Not to say it's all smooth sailing - it does get rough - but it's worth it. Especially when you find a counselor who is right for you.

Maybe if you go, your friend will be more willing to try it too.

[Miss_A]

I tired to help her to the best I could do in the end, she told another person about it and then she got loads of hugs and simpathy and attention and it looks like she is proud of it. But now I've realise that its triggered me into doing it again with out anyone knowing or giving me simpathy as if. I don't need it but also seems o me she did it now just to make others feel sorry for her. She now said she has stopped. But I feel used and double crossed. Oh well cut*

[Rapunzel]

{{{{{{{Miss A}}}}}}}}

Do you have anyone in real life you can talk to about your feelings? It helps to talk here, and you are welcome to keep on posting as much as you need to. I would urge you to find a counselor for yourself though. You have taken on a lot of responsibility with your friend, and that is draining, and there are reasons why you hurt yourself already, and you deserve to have help dealing with that - more than what we are able to give you here.