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i am so sad feel like everything is so horrible i am all alone. My whole life is falling apart faster now it always was but slowly. Hes guilt tripping me cause i hurt so bad cause of my eating disorder. Ive always been there 4him ive tried to help he pushes me away because of my problems. Hes never understood that im at my best when im helping someone. So now i have 2go away to a eating disorder facility in a couple weeks hes making things so hard for me. I can feel his anger his hatred. He is so distant from me. It hurts so bad i feel like my world is being torn apart. I feel like if the days continue this way i cant handle it anymore i want to self injure i feel like it would turn bad something i may not make it out of. and if i do it would make everything worse. Im trying 2hold myself together but hes making it so hard and i have no one 2turn to. I made him my everything.
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FR, this relationship with this man sounds very dysfunctional. It sounds like you are co dependent - being more than willing to take care of someone else and not take care of yourself. This man sounds very selfish, that he wants you to only focus on him and not yourself at all. It was a good fit and met everyone's needs UNTIL you came to a point where you have to take care of yourself. A relationship like this is not healthy at all. People must take care of themselves. I'll bet you grew up like this, where you had to meet the needs of a parent and ignore your own needs and this parent never took care of your needs and expected you to take care of them all the time? If this is true it is very dysfunctional. Parents are supposed to take care of their children, not the other way around.
Please keep us posted as to how you are doing.
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i would say, a man not willing to help you thru your hard times.. But you have helped him thru his.. Just isnt worth the pain. There are many other guys who will be willing to hold you thru your hard times.. Find someone who is going to love ALL of you.. Inside and out.. Not matter what.
good luck.. love, Everyrose. |
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