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May 16, 2011, 12:34 AM
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was so over whelmed tonite. started last nite and did resist it then and all day today. but tonite it became too much. i wanted to email t but its sunday and her weekend. and was thinking maybe i could email tomorrow but youre supposed to be able to cope alone in between sessions. and t has other clients during the week. so i decided not to email tomorrow or any day. and that left me alone with it and it got more intense and i ended up s/i-ing quite bad.
what are you supposed to do when youre overwhelmed between sessions. are there strategies to use that i dont know about. i mean different than what is listed at the top of this page. those things wouldnt work when im at this point. also i guess you dont need to tell t about this because its part of how you deal with it alone. i thought i was a stronger person than this. |
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May 16, 2011, 12:50 PM
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Hey Suzzie,
I am sorry to here you are struggling at the moment, it looks like you are going through a lot  Do you cuts need any medical attention? Are they safe and away from any harm? If you are wanting to S/I maybe you should find alternatives, could you hide all the equipment you have away from you? Is it during your session or after it? Why not take a look at this article It's called dealing with urges http://www.thesite.org/healthandwell...alingwithurges Here are also a few coping tips and distractions on this page of the site http://www.thesite.org/healthandwell...nddistractions Quote:
(((((((((Suzzie)))))))) |
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#3
May 16, 2011, 02:05 PM
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What did your T tell you about contact between sessions?
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#4
May 16, 2011, 02:24 PM
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you should talk to your T about this, maybe have her/him help you come up with techniques to get by. you'll also probably get reassurance too. dont worry...
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#5
May 16, 2011, 11:22 PM
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she hasnt. i just figured it out. i just got the impression from posts ive read that not everyone is supposed to need to email t in between. depends. i should be able to wait. i dont try enough.
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May 17, 2011, 10:48 AM
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What? You have to talk to your T. You can't assume what she wants.
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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May 18, 2011, 12:26 AM
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but assuming is safer than asking to me.
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May 18, 2011, 10:45 AM
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Assuming causes distress. What bad thing will happen if you ask?
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May 18, 2011, 10:57 AM
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My T has always asked me to call if I feel the need to self injure any time of the day or night (although I have never been able to do so yet, but that is down to my stuff /anxieties). Needing to SI is an awful place to be, really hard to resist the urges. I don't agree that we are supposed to cope in between sessions - we can't just turn on and off like that unless we're really good at disconnecting - I think the gap between sessions is there for us to learn to cope, but it takes a long time to be expert at that.
I pay my T for my sessions, but I also expect some availabilty between sessions as well - this is a tough journey for all of us and sometimes we need a little extra help. 
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May 18, 2011, 09:38 PM
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yes. that she will think it isnt necessary.
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#11
May 19, 2011, 09:32 AM
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This is what you think she will think. You really don't know what she believes.
You know, when we grow up in dysfunctional families where there isn't good communication we get used to assuming and guessing and only figuring things out by ourselves. What we need to learn is to communicate with others, learn that communicating with others isn't a bad thing. I had to learn to stop assuming and others here have needed to learn this too. I had to learn to communicate with others. What I realized when I started doing this was that ALL of my assumptions were wrong. Yes, every single one of them. How can an assumption be correct? How can we mind read? Now I'm at the point where I don't know anything unless you tell me. I got my assumptions down to zero. I simply never assume anymore. It certainly makes life easier and it cut out all of that distress because assuming causes distress!
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May 19, 2011, 06:31 PM
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that is great sannah!!!
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