My T never talks about my cutting

I told my T that I cut about six months ago. Since thinen she never has brought it up. She never talks about it. What does that mean? It feels like she doesnt care. Is it wierd that I want her to care. Sometimes I think about brining it up.... but I think I only want to to see if she cares..

Hi EsthersVirtue,

Yes, I'd bring it up again if I were in your position. It may be awkward to discuss it, but at this point, it also sounds like it's awkward *not* to discuss it, and it's becoming a hard thing in your counseling relationship. When you talked about it with your T before, were you able to have a good discussion about it? Some Ts are more supportive on this topic than others....some Ts find it very difficult to discuss, I think, and I don't know if your T falls in that category or not. I also think most Ts expect their clients to bring up the topics for discussion during sessions, so she may be waiting for you to bring it up again, even something as important as self-injury.

Take care,
ErinBear

It sounds like this is something that is bothering you and therefore you may want to bring it up in therapy. You may be surprised what other avenues this discussion may take you. Good luck.

therapists take their cues from the client. Unless the client tells them they want to talk about something usually they don't bring things up. If you haven't talked about it since mentioning it to her she probably thinks you have it under control and since you brought it up once she probably thinks you are comfortable with telling her if you have a problem with it without her pushing the issue. If you want to talk about it then tell her so that she will know that and let her know you want her to check in with you about it.

T's are told not to talk much about it themselves as not to reward negative behavior..so unless you mention some aspect of it ..they won't

Also at the clinic I go to...they want you to mention it and will check you ...if they think you need medical care you will go or be terminated..I have asked on this that is how I know...and I have a freind who asked her T same deal another state..so its not something T's will put a lot of focus on they would rather get to the feelings behind it

Bring it up and they will listen but will try to move it back to emotions