[ShaggyChic_1201]

I have no awareness of SI'ing but have been doing so a lot lately b/c of the stresses in my life. My H. doesn't understand dissociation and said every time you hurt yourself you've DECIDED to hurt me. I hear this as an ultimatum - either quit SI'ing or he'll leave. I'm panicking. If he goes, there will be nothing to live for so why bother trying to control it at all. If he stays, I'll be lying to him I dissociate and hurt myself.

Story of my life: damned if I do and damned if I don't.

[Sannah]

Originally Posted by bubsmiley

My H. doesn't understand dissociation and said every time you hurt yourself you've DECIDED to hurt me.

I hear this as an ultimatum - either quit SI'ing or he'll leave.

These 2 phrases don't mean the same thing.

Can you pull some stuff off the internet to show your husband to help him to understand SI and dissociation?

[likewater]

You two arent understanding each other at all. What he is saying is probably true. It hurts him to see you in pain and see you hurting nyourself. He is not saying he is going to leave you. Do you have a T ? Can he go to T with you?

[ShaggyChic_1201]

Ok, you're all right. turns out I was not given the ultimatum of I'm going to leave you. Instead, it was the ultimatum of I'm going to put you in a box (hospital) if you do it again. I asked my T if he could do this, and she said no, but it still scares me. But then, I'm so confused and worried right now that maybe "the box" is the right place for me after all.

Deep sigh.
Happy Thanksgiving. Careful with those knives