[Zowee1]

Hi,

last night i got upset over the scars on my leg. Sometimes they dont bother me but sometimes they do.

I told my fiance and he said they were a part of me and that i should live with them.

Are they? Should i?

Short of cosmetic surgery there in nothing you can do with the scars and cosmetic surgury cost mega bucks and most insurance does not cover it at least not state insurances.

Im glad your boyfriend sees it that way. many significant others find self harm scars offensive. Basically from his response he was telling you that he has accepted that they are there and it makes no difference to him he accepts you how you are, as you are... thats love.

once a scar is made unless you have the bucks and means of getting surgery yea those scars are going to be with you for the rest of your life. Hating them isn't going to make them go away so some people make the best of them for example getting a tatoo as a part of the scar so instead of a reminder of something gross they become a work of art.

Other people like me that have scars - well Irarely pay attention to them. I know they are there but sitting around hating them and making myself miserable about them isnt going to make them disappear so they are just there. I neither go out of my way to cover them or flaunt them they are just there like my eyes are there and my nose is there and my arms and legs are there. kind of like having my c section scar its just there so what millions of people go through that every day. well millions of people in this world have scars from cutting and other self harm activites. Im no different and my scars are no different. they are just there.

[Lexicon78]

Well, you could always get them surgically removed but yeah, they kinda are a part of you.

I am very proud of my scars. Why? Because I look down at them and see success, not failure. You see each scar represents something that was terribly upsetting for me. Instead of caving and just ending it, I succeeded and overcame it.

I guess it's all in the mindset that you have about your scars. You can either choose to be proud of them or choose to be ashamed of them.

[hereiam]

In short: Yes. They are a part of you, and you should live with them.

When I see my scars it's very easy for me to narrow my thinking into something negative, and hate myself for what I did and how permanent I made it. But then I realize that thinking that way and dwelling on those things does absolutely NOTHING for anyone, especially me.

Now I look at the scars as something of a testimate to all the things I've been through, and how far I have come since then. That doesn't necessarily mean no longer cutting, or being cured of anything, but just the fact that I'm still around and have accomplished so much. I had to go through what I went through to become what I am today...most people have memories, we have scars. Accepting them is the easiest and most beneficial way to continue with life.

[lenjan]

When I look at my scars, they make me sad for the person who felt so rotten she was compelled to make them -- but I too see them as badges of survival, of a war won. If people are brazen enough to ask, I say they're battle scars, because they are. They're the result of a battle with myself, the way I used to be. I've come a long way.

It's all a matter of perspective, I guess.

Candy

[Zowee1]

Thankyou for your words, i can live with them cos they show what ive been through and show that ive come out of the other side a stronger person.

Thanks guys