[toesquasher]

I SI my tummy cuz I hate my tummy and don't want it anymore. If my tummy was gone, I wouldn't have so many problems.

[Sam2]

Originally Posted by toesquasher

I SI my tummy cuz I hate my tummy and don't want it anymore. If my tummy was gone, I wouldn't have so many problems.

Hi. I'm truly sorry that you felt you had to attack yourself. That is an awful feeling. When people like us hurt, its easy to get sucked into the trap of thinking that if we could just fix this one thing, we would be happy again. That is truly what it is though. A trap. You don't have to have major problems to think that way either. When I was little, there were two things that I desperately wanted out of life. To be a Vet, and to have a horse. Well, against the odds, I acheived both those things. Instead of being happy, I live an isolated, lonely life with a laundry list of problems. You could have the most perfect tummy there is, but I doubt it would make you feel any better. I'm probably not telling you anything you don't already know.

Our phsycal bodies are, in most cases, just superficial. Its the mind and emotions that make us who we are. They are also the things that cause us the most pain. We've all seen the kid in highschool that isn't particularly attractive, but is still very popular. There is something inside them that allows people to look past their outer shell.

You do know that the abuse you suffered was not your fault, don't you? I don't know how often it happened, but even once can leave a scar that we are left to deal with. Its hard to come to terms with. Why didn't we resist, why didn't someone else step in and stop it? Over the years, it magnifies and has to come out somewhere. Don't let it define you and who you are. I can still remember my one incident with the babysitter over forty years ago. One time, one invasion and yet every detail is as clear today as it was when it happened. Its hard to leave behind, but it can be made bearable if you can understand what happened.

Your life is too precious to lose prematurely. Even if it seems like such a mess that you'll never find your way out again. You can though. It will take a lot of tears, tantrums and probably mistakes before you can find yourself again. By being here though, you've shown yourself that you want to find your way out. No one here will ever judge you either for what you have done, or what was done to you. Somewhere in there is a beautiful person with the ability to give and recieve. This is a hard time of year for those of us with inner pain. A reminder that we should be part of a family, a community and spending time safely with the people who mean most to us.
I believe you can do this. Even if you just take baby steps to get there, don't give up. You are a person with a diagnosis, not a diagnosis with a person. Don't define or limit yourself based on your pain. If you had a broken leg, you'd heal through time and physical therapy. Your injury is inside, and though emotional injury is more difficult to heal, you go about it the same way. Please don't give up on yourself.

Sam2

Originally Posted by toesquasher

I SI my tummy cuz I hate my tummy and don't want it anymore. If my tummy was gone, I wouldn't have so many problems.

awww. i'm sorry.

it's mainly wrists and legs for me

[Sannah]

Why do you feel this way about your tummy?

[toesquasher]

Originally Posted by Sannah

Why do you feel this way about your tummy?

Long story.............it's because my tummy made me get hurt. If my tummy didn't like touch, then none of the other stuff would have happened. My tummy makes me confused........................my tummy likes touch but the rest of me doesn't like that my tummy likes touch............so my tummy hasn't had touch in a long time. Instead, when my tummy asks for touch, I hurt it to make it stop asking for touch....but it keeps asking for touch. If my tummy was gone, it wouldn't ask for touch and I wouldn't be so confused.............

[toesquasher]

and...............no one but me sees my tummy, so I don't have to worry about being caught.

[Sannah]

Originally Posted by toesquasher

when my tummy asks for touch, I hurt it to make it stop asking for touch....but it keeps asking for touch.

So it doesn't work then?

You will never get rid of your tummy.

[LoneWolfie]

My forarms except where my tattoos are. It is a place I can see them and the hurt or lack of emotions. Of course everyone else seems them also, I don't usually wear long sleeves.

[toesquasher]

well, it sometimes keeps my tummy from talking to me for a while, but you're right, I'll never get rid of this stupid tummy..............

[Christa87413]

I would cut my legs and my arms, just to release all the frustration, anger, and guilt... sometimes I get sooo bad that I want to start cutting myself again.

[JayneDough!]

Arms, legs, chest, stomach, if I can reach it with a knife it's fair game.

Why? Still haven't figured that out yet. Ever pop a blister or lance an abseces? Sometimes I think there is so much pain inside that the only way to let it out is to cut.

[Angelornot]

Originally Posted by toesquasher

If my tummy was gone, I wouldn't have so many problems.

Contrary to what some believe, life is no better if you are thin. I weigh 95 lbs and I still SI. it's no easier for me and losing weight isn't going to solve your problems.

[xXSkitty KittyXx]

My wrists and thighs.... ive attempted suicide 12times....