[Angel of Bedlam]

My boyfriend told me that if I SI again, he's leaving me. Dear God, what do I do?

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Commit to not doing it. Use your coping strategies instead.

Dont test him, if he says he is going to leave you if you do it, he is. Then you'll end up in a worse state with only yourself to blame.

[tealBumblebee]

Have you explained to him that its not as easy as just never doing it? Even if you don't do it for the next few weeks or months, those urges are real and they don't just stop because one "wants to". I wish I had an easy solution for you but I honestly don't. *hugs* If you really want to stop, maybe ask him to stand behind you. Ask him to work on stopping a "bad habit" of his at the same time - make it a team effort. Support each other.

[Angel of Bedlam]

Originally Posted by tealBumblebee

Have you explained to him that its not as easy as just never doing it? Even if you don't do it for the next few weeks or months, those urges are real and they don't just stop because one "wants to". I wish I had an easy solution for you but I honestly don't. *hugs* If you really want to stop, maybe ask him to stand behind you. Ask him to work on stopping a "bad habit" of his at the same time - make it a team effort. Support each other.

Right, he doesn't get that. If I could just "will it away," I would have done that when I was 13 and never cut in the first place. I don't wanna SI, I don't like it. I don't like the scars. I'm addicted to the quick fix. It scares me.

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[mmort]

I know the felling my wife said the same thing to me yesterday. She will walk out the door if I dont stop. People dont understand what we go through trying not to do it. I talked to my tdoc and she sajd to use my coping stills. I try but it still on my mind. You have to try to use yours. I know its hard. but its better than losing the one you love. I hope you can.

[Angel of Bedlam]

Originally Posted by mmort

I know the felling my wife said the same thing to me yesterday. She will walk out the door if I dont stop. People dont understand what we go through trying not to do it. I talked to my tdoc and she sajd to use my coping stills. I try but it still on my mind. You have to try to use yours. I know its hard. but its better than losing the one you love. I hope you can.

I try so hard. I even have a crisis plan. Being diagnosed with BPD, sometimes my emotions are so overwhelming I can't use it. The blade is constantly calling. I think abouy how it looks, how the cuts would look on my skin and how good that would feel. The pain is my poison.

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[mmort]

Its very hard to stop something that gives you release from your emotions. The only thing you could do is think about your boy friends comment and talk to him about understanding your fellings.and urges. It might help you then to use your crisis plan.

[Angel of Bedlam]

Originally Posted by mmort

Its very hard to stop something that gives you release from your emotions. The only thing you could do is think about your boy friends comment and talk to him about understanding your fellings.and urges. It might help you then to use your crisis plan.

Thank you. It really means a lot for you to respond and understand.

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[Fuzzybear]