At first this T wanted to work with me until she asked about harming myself. I promised I would not lie so I told her.....then she wanted to refer me elsewhere...

Why would any T say they deal with trauma, but not this????
It hurt so bad....

[Christina86]

Hey ((((((((((Riptide)))))))))))

Sorry about your experience with your T. I've heard that it happens somewhat frequently - it's one of those things that not everyone knows how to deal with, even T's. Some people want to have training in whatever they help their client through, but they might not when it comes to SI (since SI can be the result of any number of issues someone is having).

Dont take it personally ... it's not you, it's your T's issue, and maybe they think referring you elsewhere for help is in your best interest...

Have you tried talking to her and finding out her reasons for trying to reject you/refer you elsewhere? Or maybe see if you can see someone else to deal with the SI, but that everything else your current T helps you deal with at the same time?

Take care of yourself.

[(JD)]

(((hugs)))) You must be feeling miserable! You can't be sure as to the why unless you ask her. She may not feel equipped to handle this type of symptom? She may just choose to not treat patients who do this? Maybe it triggers her? Talk to her about it if you can, it might do you a world of good to find out her reasoning.

[bchlyn]

i am sorry that she responded that way... that must have been really hard for you...lyn

[anyone]

Hi Riptide

Christina is probably right, Your t may think it's in your best interest to refer you elsewhere, she may not be experienced enough or have the appropriate training to help someone with si. at least she's being honest with you. You may find the referal a really positive thing.

It does hurt when you get something like that but hang on in there, someone better may be just around the corner

[dkwynn]

Riptide,
I know you have no idea who I am, Have not posted alot since I joinning PC, but thought I would try and share my thoughts about
this T thing, First let me say that I am sorry you have to deal with this on top of the other issues. No matter why T is reffering you to someone else it the feelings that you have that is important that
make you feel rejected and abanded.
Think a miniute if you went to your regular docter because of migraine headacks and found out that you had a brain tumer. That would be very serious and doctor would send you to a specialist to
treat you rather than treating your headack.
That is kind of what your T is doing instead of treating and working
on your PTSD and trauma she wants you to have someone that is
a speicalist because of the seriousness of SI.
Maybe you could tell her how you feel because your feelings are always important and need to be validated.
Hope you feel a little better soon try and remember little steps at a time.