[me05]

hi. I am new to the forum. I am kind of lost right now. I am note looking for sympathy or anything. I am just looking for help. I have SI now for 3 years. I was caught by a counselor 2 years ago and my parents did nothing but yell and scream at me. I still SI quite often. But nobody knows. Its a release from everything that goes on in my life. I have someone tyt I can talk to. She is my best friend but I am 16 and she is in her 40's. She knows that I used to SI and I see her looking at my arms once and a while to see if I still do but I hide it well. I'm just scared that she will tell my parents. They won't do anything. Should I say something to her? Or should I just keep doing what I'm doing? I don't know :-\

[alevin]

Hi,

its usually best to talk, and not keep stuff in.considering that you say she is your best friend, then given ,not talking or talking, then i think that you should talk to her me05, - as long as you have enough trust in her,then the truth here ,i think ,would be best considered.

a bit simple an answer, i am afraid, but thats what i think...

i hope this might help,

take care,

alevin

[Christina86]

Hi (((((me05)))))))) welcome to PC.

I'm glad you've got a friend - I do believe that sometimes honesty is the best policy in cases like this.

Does your school (assuming you're in school) have a counsellor or someone to talk to?

If your friend finds out that you're still actively SIng, she may tell your parents. She might also be able to help you find professional help to deal with this (if your parents refuse to do anything).

Hope that helps some.

[sujunew]

You said that you have a friend that you can talk to. IMO confiding in an older friend brings me relief; I feel like the weight of the problem has been lifted and that my 'older' friends can help and guide me. That is one thing I have always regretted from when I was a teenager:- that I never told anyone how I was feeling. I believe that if I had then things may not have gotten as out-of-hand as they did, and I could've started working on my issues a lot earlier...
Best of luck in whatever you do; you say you are looking for help, and you are reaching out, so take that step and trust your friend...Even if she does tell your parents at least it is out in the open and you can move forward...

[bipolar_bear]

Welcome to the forum me05. Sometimes it helps to talk things through with someone. It is a hard decision to make on who do you want to trust and has your best interest at heart. Yes, she may tell your parents but she also may help support you. It seems you are trying to reach out for support and maybe she is someone you can turn to. If not, is there any councelors in your school? Please keep reaching out. You are very brave.

BB

[me05]

thank you so much everyone. I feel so much better talking to everybody. The main thing people say is to talk to a counselor. I used to talk to one almost everyday at my school for a year. But when she found out I cut, she told my parents and I wasnt allowed to talk to her anymore. My mom screamed at me so much because she thinks that I sat there and just talked about her. She was a main topic but it wasnt the only thing. That's a big part of my problem. I don't want to lose talking to my friend... She's all I have right now.

[crazybones]

yeah school counselor's are not very understanding and yeah evry1 always says see a T get treatment blah blah blah any way dont fear your parents yes they will yell and scream but its becuz some part of them cares for you talk with your older friend you say u can trust her explain that u dont want your parents to know becuz they will make a big deal about it i am sure she might not have a problem with it i mean she is older and been around the block a time or 2