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Oct 15, 2008, 07:44 AM
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ive tried some of the suggestions on the sticky. but didnt seem to do much. am still holding on from injury but at the end of my rope. its been a while and im getting tired of fighting. i see the dr for the first time today. but can mention this. cant be admitted. i keep telling myself in 15 min. but had alot of trouble getting through the night.
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Oct 15, 2008, 07:51 AM
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((((((((((Chrise)))))))))))))
Chances are, you won't be admitted if you're not a big danger to yourself or others (ie. suicidal). Self-injury doesn't necessarily mean you're suicidal. Talk to your doctor, and get the help you deserve. If 15 minutes is too long... what about 5 or 10 instead? Keep going, you can do this.
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Oct 15, 2008, 07:55 AM
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i also have thoughts of other harm that i cant tell him. but ive self injured along time ago and really dont want that road again. |
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Oct 15, 2008, 08:17 AM
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Good for you on having been able to stop in the past and also for not wanting to travel that painful path again. Does looking at scars from the past make you not want to do it or want to do it more? I know it's different for everyone. If it is a deterent, make sure that when the urge is strong, you focus on the scar and remember how upset you felt after having done it. You have positive things in your life--just being able to post here that you don't want to si is a big positive. It gets very hard to hold on, that's when you have to relax your hold a bit and lean on others--whether its family, friends, doctor, therapist, or pc. Please be safe.
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____________________________________ "We can't talk at the same time! It doesn't work like that! I talk, you talk, I talk, you talk!!" ~ Peanut 
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Oct 15, 2008, 08:51 AM
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Oct 15, 2008, 08:59 AM
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Put a long sleeve shirt on, long pants, socks, whatever it takes to cover up the marks. Maybe you could go for a walk--take a look at the fall colors, the fresh air and exercise will help remove your thoughts a little. If you are at home, go to a room that does not have anything you can use to harm yourself. If you are at work, put your scissors or paperclips or whatever else it is you use in a drawer and lock it. At home, put the items you use somewhere that you would have to make a definate effort to get them. Put them in a bowl of water and stick in the freezer. That way you have to defrost them first and really think about what you're doing. What has happened recently that you want to start again?
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____________________________________ "We can't talk at the same time! It doesn't work like that! I talk, you talk, I talk, you talk!!" ~ Peanut
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Oct 15, 2008, 11:33 AM
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So Chrise you are starting therapy then? So you have no one right now who you can talk to about how you feel?
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Oct 15, 2008, 09:20 PM
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right now im a going it alone.i hate it. i feel like i have to fake it all the time. i feel sooo alone. i could be in a room full of people and totally isolated. |
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Oct 16, 2008, 08:51 AM
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So you are not connecting with people in a meaningful way? Has it always been like this?
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Oct 16, 2008, 10:37 AM
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yes and no, its been better than this |
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Oct 16, 2008, 01:12 PM
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Do you have any ideas why it's different now?
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Oct 16, 2008, 01:26 PM
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busy with kids so dont have time to go out. never had a life other than work and kids. and i never went back to work. my husband has no knowlege of my history. we have no family except for each other. |
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Oct 16, 2008, 01:33 PM
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Chrise, with myself I found that I put roadblocks up to getting close to others and letting others get close to me. I discovered that close friends are not going to come up to my door and get me, that I had to want these friends and pursue them and this means taking the time. I had to figure out why I didn't really want close friends. I found all sorts of answers for myself.
I know all sorts of moms who don't take time for themselves. This is a choice. So you keep your history a secret from your husband? This seems like it would create distance....
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Oct 16, 2008, 01:40 PM
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Oct 16, 2008, 01:51 PM
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Corners are tough but they are not cages. I looked up your other posts and feel that I know a little bit about you. I read that you were doing really well for a long time. That is really good. Did the move start the downward spiral into that corner?
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Oct 16, 2008, 02:00 PM
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Oct 16, 2008, 02:04 PM
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Did you work on a lot of stuff last time that you were in therapy (with success)?
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Oct 16, 2008, 02:07 PM
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i was intensive long term therapy. with multiple hosp stays. kids are coming home. time to put on the happy face. |
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Oct 16, 2008, 02:10 PM
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What do you think is the most important thing to work on first?
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Oct 16, 2008, 02:12 PM
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Oct 16, 2008, 02:15 PM
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Those in your family or outside?
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Oct 16, 2008, 02:17 PM
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Oct 16, 2008, 02:21 PM
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What helped me to get better is to target one interaction which caused me distress with whoever it happened to be with. I would work on that 1) what's really going here? 2) how to I think/feel with it? 3) what can I do about it. I got better step by step doing this. Does this give you a better idea where to start?
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Oct 16, 2008, 03:28 PM
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thank you, for spending the time with me. |
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Oct 17, 2008, 08:23 AM
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Chrise, let me know if I can help you with anything. Feel free to PM me anytime....
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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