[anna342]

I told my boyfriend about the self harming and it's really upset him. He asked me about the last time I did it, and because it indirectly was because of something he was involved in he got really upset.

He's so worried and scared for anything to go wrong now, and seems pretty overwhelmed by the whole thing.

I guess I just wanted to see if anyone had experienced this, and how they made their partners feel a bit more ok about knowing that their loved one self harms?

[Puffyprue]

Originally Posted by anna342

I told my boyfriend about the self harming and it's really upset him. He asked me about the last time I did it, and because it indirectly was because of something he was involved in he got really upset.

He's so worried and scared for anything to go wrong now, and seems pretty overwhelmed by the whole thing.

I guess I just wanted to see if anyone had experienced this, and how they made their partners feel a bit more ok about knowing that their loved one self harms?

hi anna.. i know its hard telling ur bf about self harm and it will be hard for him to understand coz he dont have any experience for something like this ..i was told my exs and he run from me ( never mean to make u scared my exs maybe just not worth it)...give him time and if you should tell him about everything and helps him to help you he must so worried coz he cares about u ...let him know when u feel u want to do that maybe u could call him so he will be there for u and u dont have to do this..hope it could helps

[turquoisesea]

heya

keep in mind, that your boyfriend loves you maybe more than you do yourself when you si. I dunno, but when I have si'ed in the past I've looked back on it.. it doesn't really make sense...

I think it's important to tell your boyfriend that even if it has to do with something he did, it's not his FAULT.
It's important for him to understand that.

My bf was crushed , hurt HORRIBLY when something he said caused me to go there. He... never understood the desire to hurt yourself until he was so hurt from... hearing me in the other room because of something he said...
it should never go there, just... so's have to understand, that although what they say may hurt us, it is NOT their fault that we SI.

At least from where I am, he saves me from it more than he pushes me - he's a source of love, and love helps. Maybe, explain this to him?

sending hugs