Hypersexual

I do go to therapy. Unfortunately I go to a low cost clinic where the therapist is only available every 3-4 months.

That's not therapy. A cut-rate therapist with thirty cases too many on his/her workload seeing you 4 times a year is going to provide exactly 0 resolution. I daresay therapy with a good therapist would probably resolve the underlying trauma, and once THAT is addressed, much of that urge would simply fade to manageable levels without you being aware its happening.

Me, I didn't have money for all that therapy shtako. So, I did what any rational person would do. I dropped two hits of acid and went rummaging. I basically prepped myself ahead of time by specifically focusing on wanting to learn, and man, what a ride that was. It wasn't always pleasant, but I'm stronger than thought loops, and I realized things about myself that were always present; I'd just never noticed before. Being aware of that older anger and shame over situations from decades ago seemed to lessen the severity of other impulsivity around things like sex and OCD. So, there's something to be said about discharging that energy, although what I did was akin to jumping over Niagara in a barrel in a "fk it" moment of desperation. This, because I've read about psychedelic therapy for PTSD and whatnot that showed jaw-dropping promise, but whose funding was cut off as the VA became shtako in the 80s.

One on one time with someone you build trust in over a few months of weekly visits would do you wonders. Hope you can find someone soon to help you. (((F&L40)))

I posted this thread almost exactly 2 years ago. It's been 8 months since I've logged on. In those 8 months I suffered a severe head injury and a massive concussion. Both injuries happened while drunk on dates. So, my life hasn't changed much in the last 2 years. I continue to chat with several men a day and also watch porn and masturbate at least once a day. I can barely go 6 days without sex. I'm ecstatic if I have 2 dates a week, especially if they are paid dates. I had a major depressive episode and formed a very detailed suicide plan. Thankfully, I got a friend's help, and here I am.
Almost every person I know has told me to get help. It just makes me angry and then I avoid them for a while. So, there it The unloading here...... I seriously feel a bit of weight off when I message here.

Then message away! That weight is off when you're here because you're discharging it. I think the battle is better fought indirectly; by this, I mean, not focusing directly on resisting the urges, but on finding other activities that so fill your day that you find you are too tired or simply don't care about anything else. It's subtle, but there's a distinction. Think of it as asymmetrical warfare against your nature--you're providing a shiny distraction that is so interesting that your subconscious mind is too busy with the distraction to notice what it is lacking. The only time you'll lose is if you give up entirely. No matter how many battles you lose, so long as you keep fighting the war, you're winning.

Hi Fearandloathing40, I can really relate to what you're struggling with. I just joined to try to keep out of chat rooms and chat with people that are dealing with the same kind of struggles. I've relapsed a few times, I always seem to fall back into the same habits. Have you tried medications? I just went to a doctor and got prescribed Zoloft, I told her I had saw where it recommends SSRIs. She said its that, mood stabilizers, or something that alcoholics use, I forget the name. Just took my first pill. Kinda paranoid :P

Its supposed to decrease libido, but other scary side effects too. Might just try switching to the mood stabilizers if I don't like these.

I have a similar issue but am much younger. I think it is about total parent (mom) rebellion. But it is becoming obsessive. I feel like I need the sex and that a little bit frightens me. Most of my girlfriends struggle to have an orgasm and I can so easily have one. If I cannot find some guy to have sex with I will rub against the sofa arm when no-one is home in order to relive the urge. I think I need some sort of medicine.

Im finally feeling better ! I've only been having sex with 1 man for the last 2 months
I still sext other men and masturbate a few times a day. Overall I'm in a much better place though.
Thought it might be nice to post while not being a Dawnie Downer lol

Hope is all we need; you maybe in a phase of liberation and exploration to find who you really are ... and find your rock!

Oh darling, I'm so sorry, I thought you were enjoying your new found experiences sexually! I didn't know they were treating you poorly. I am the wrong person to preach self control, but wise sober partner, condom/btc, and obgyn 1 every few months if you're really going all out sounds like a woman using her WISE MIND! Maybe you have to create your newself? I think the old one needed to cut loose a bit? Thank you for having the courage to share. Sex is normal, and abnormal, and it's never easy discussing either. xxoo

Dear FearandLoathing40,

This is great, that you're feeling a lot better! I hope you're still going along well now.

I'm just thinking that maybe this was all just something you had to go through, until you finally "got it out of your system", as it were?!

Please look after yourself; this is a wonderful forum, and you'll always have lots of support from all of us here. xo