[lovefew-fearnone]

i love women but lately i have been curious about what it would be like to be with another guy but im not sure. what is happening to me

[RomanSunburn]

Not being a guy, or a professional, or even gay for that matter, I can't really say for sure. But I feel like a lot of guys go through this at some point in their lives. I've known several guys who have wondered the same thing when they were younger, but now they are in committed, long term relationships with women, consider themselves as straight, and no longer think about this at all. I think some of it has to do with age and hormones. I believe time will help sort things out one way or the other.

Best wishes,
Ro

[lovefew-fearnone]

thank you roman
its just been a little hectic around here lately

[Rhapsody]

I went through the same thing as have many other men & women.... so trust me - you are normal.

[lovefew-fearnone]

but what did you do about it

Originally Posted by Rhapsody

I went through the same thing as have many other men & women.... so trust me - you are normal.

[Dailysurfer]

As far as I am concerned, it could be/is dormant feelings awakening within you, which you might possibly have subconsiously/consiously surpressed until now. It is very important that you deal with these feelings, as they are perfectly normal. There is professional help out there, to assist you in dealing with these issues, if you decide to seek it out.

[lovefew-fearnone]

i want to seek it out but with the way i look and am built if i came out as even bisexual i would be fighting off everyone and im not even sure what i wouuld want from a guy but i do know that in fighting i will end up hurting people to the point of hospitalization

Originally Posted by Dailysurfer

As far as I am concerned, it could be/is dormant feelings awakening within you, which you might possibly have subconsiously/consiously surpressed until now. It is very important that you deal with these feelings, as they are perfectly normal. There is professional help out there, to assist you in dealing with these issues, if you decide to seek it out.

[LonelyStoner420]

Hey i know how you feel. When i was in my early teens i met a guy i just wanted to be friends with at first. during this time i was bi-curious. after a year of just hanging out we got drunk and got nasty. It was weird for a while between us but we started dateing and it was great for a while intill i had to move out of state now i am a proclaimed bi-sexual and have been with several guys and girls sence then and have even been married once. My advise is try Myspace. Make a fake profile and set up as either bi or gay and that your single and looking. hook up with somebody and see how it feels. if you don't like it hey at least you'll know. if you do than it'll be a new chapter for you. i sugggest myspace because you can meet local people you don't know. another safer thing as a test try looking up porn. my favorite site is Gaybeef.com it has all kinds of free gay porn. see how that makes you feel befor you try anything. peace out man good luck

[lovefew-fearnone]

thanks ill look into it

[Grithnir]

I don't think pornography is the answer. Everytime I have sexual encounters with men, as I am one myself, I run into a tyrade of religiousity and trying to rid myself of these feelings. Sexual encounters complicate matters, but can be satisfying for a time if it is the right kind of person. Gay men can be flaky and also are more prone to risk unsafe sex especially with alcohol, it has happened with me on a few occasions and I thank God I never contracted an illness. I know I am gay and always have, I find no pleasure looking at a beautiful women but can watch music videos of certain women over and over again. If hooking up with a guy is going to cause great distress, emotional trauma and eventually intensive therapy than I would avoid that, but I don't discourage talking with other gay men. I attend weekly meetings with other gay men choosing to live a chaste life, which includes pornography and it has helped contain feelings but closeness with men is important to me. I live with a straight male that I once had a relationship with, now we just hug a lot.

Just saying meeting people off the internet and in person is a risky business but will provide a lot of experience to think about, and in general other ways of meeting people are more validated and create a more positive experience. I don't obstain from pornography and I would like to meet some more gay men in the future mainly to be friends with, but in general it is all very risky emotionally and you should educate yourself into internet meetings if that is the next step you took. I wish sometimes I was not gay, but have coped with it all my life, from a very early age I knew I was. There are a lot of ideas out there about it, and male bonding on more intimate levels for heterosexual males is difficult but sometimes needed to understand or appreciate male beauty just as women appreciate female beauty without being gay. Just don't dive into something headfirst and think a good outcome will come from it. I think improving spirituality and learning about buddhism are better for my mind than gay porn and some of the shallow encounters I have had with men that want just a few things and some of them have been weird and I have regretted it. I have been in only three serious relationships with men that lasted a very long time and mainly it was our connection of wanting marijuana that kept that party going, and I am done with all that, so just a cautious warning about being bi-curious.

[Dailysurfer]

Originally Posted by enditnow92

i want to seek it out but with the way i look and am built if i came out as even bisexual i would be fighting off everyone and im not even sure what i wouuld want from a guy but i do know that in fighting i will end up hurting people to the point of hospitalization

I think before you go setting up accounts with Myspace, you really do need to chat to someone about your feelings. I wouldn't go rushing into anything sexually, until you get answers to some questions that you might have.

[lovefew-fearnone]

so im bi-curious what exactly does that mean because i have just recently started this and its not wanting men but almost a question of what if i was with one? its odd i guess but i just want one experience with a man just to see what its like and to find out if that is really what i am meant to be. i am curious yes but scared at the same time

[Dailysurfer]

Originally Posted by enditnow92

so im bi-curious what exactly does that mean because i have just recently started this and its not wanting men but almost a question of what if i was with one? its odd i guess but i just want one experience with a man just to see what its like and to find out if that is really what i am meant to be. i am curious yes but scared at the same time

Bi-curious is a term that would suggest that you want to kind of " test the water " if you like, metaphorically speaking. Some people are reluctant to adopt any kind of sexual label, and you don't have to. Its entirely your choice. As I said before, I would advise that you don't just rely on the pointers you get on here. There are organisatons where you are, just like we have in the UK, that will assist you, if you decide you want assistance. Unfortunately I have to crash now, as its late here. If you have anything more to ask, go for it.

[Grithnir]

Agreed, in person contact with people in your area are out there and that is preferable to internet stuff. I am inclined to say that when I made a decision to have sex with a man it kindof escaladed into a lot of chaos for me. It was soothed over by more long term relationships with men. I tried in high school to go to a place that was for gay youth but was afraid and only in college was I really given an education in a lot of things that are too complicated to explain. Intellectual, spiritual, sexual stuff and dominance issues. A lot of gay ment just want the release of ejaculation without any drama involved but I am the type of person that likes to know who I am dealing with in all situations. Who knows the answer until you talk with the LBGT community in your area. They have offices in most places. And like I did gay.com was a source of meeting men and it certainly isn't the greatest place, sort of like let's me at a coffee shop and get to it sometimes and for me at the time is what I wanted, no drama. I don't have an answer, it is such a complicated issue.

[bluemoon15]

i think it is really very essential to be more aware of your actions. Know more about yourself, go out meet people with the same feelings (that kind of curiosity) but try to evaluate everything soon you'll have clear thought about yourself.. if you thought that your bisexual be responsible enough to face consequenses, if you'll realize that your a straight guy or girl well congratz to you you'll have less worries in your life anyways..

[Allen279]

Originally Posted by enditnow92

i love women but lately i have been curious about what it would be like to be with another guy but im not sure. what is happening to me

Hi, I'm Allen. I am straight. If your having feelings about the same sex, just let it happen. Afterall, God is bisexual. I wish you the best. Allen

[Michellewhois]

If you really feel the need to find help with this question, I suggest that you Goggle "Bisexual support groups" in your area. Contact one of them and ask if they have counselors available that you can speak with. Explain your feelings as openly and honestly as you can so there are no misinterpretations about your feelings.

I hope that you find the help with all the questions that you have. on your quest for knowledge.