Is she pimping for her

I met the love of my life, and lost her. so im not sure if this is for me or for her, maybe someone out there can tell me.
we'll call her K, shes 24 intelligent and attractive and interesting and i fell in love with her almost from the beginning, im quite a bit older than she is at 49, i know its a big gap, but the connection we had together seem to make that not a problem. she lost her father at the age of 10 and has always gone for older men, bit of father replacement going there i suppose, but thats not the problem.
K lives with her friend who we'll call J, J is bisexual, K is definately not interested in J in a sexual way at all. But they are the very best of friends. After K and I were together for a while and started to discuss the future, marriage babies etc J began to get jealous and i could feel J's attitude towards me change, a word here,a comment there, there was a definate change in atmosphere. K's attitude began to change soon after and within three weeks K said that she didnt want to be in a relationship anymore, she said "i just want to be me" and we split.
K was always very sexual and had a lot of partners before we met, while we were togeter she was very faithful.
Now K has gone back to casual sex, one night stands, with no emotional involvement. they go out together to bars, K will find a chair and sit, J will talk to every man in the bar being quite flirty and eventually one of the men will come over to where they are siiting and start chatting. J then moves away and leaves the man chatting to K, at some point in the evening K will have sex with the man, either before they reach her home or at her home. it looks like J is her pimp, no money is involved, but i think J is providing K with sexual partners to keep there friendship alive. If J provides enough casual partners for K she wont need to have a relationship with anybody who might have an effect on their friendship.
i'm still in love with K and dont like to see her unhappy, i think she is unhappy. does anybody out there have a clue what going on here.

I see three possible things here...

1.) J is pimping K out for money they need (both agreed to this)

2.) J is trying to keep K interested in every thing and body so she doesn't think of you, hence leave J

3.) K is using sex to numb her true feelings and J is helping her

Sorry - this is happening to you, but if K is 24 years old then she is old enough to learn not to let others (not even that of a best friend) get in her way of true love... thats when she actually finds it.

I'm curious if she was doing this before you guys got together?

If so, it's quite possible that K just likes to go out and have quite a bit of promiscuous sex, but she doesn't feel comfortable hitting on guys. Thus J does it for her. Yeah, there's probably quite a bit going on mentally if this is the case, but casual sex isn't too uncommon for young people. It's also possible that J started disliking you due to conversations with K, where K confided in her friend the feelings that eventually led her to break up with you. (See what a funny thing perspective can be?) If this is the case, then my guess would be that she really ended the relationship because she wasn't ready for something that in-depth and monogamous. Lord knows what she believes though.

Anyway, I don't know anyone involved so I can't say with any bit of surety what's going on. I'm just providing another possible explanation. It's very difficult to gauge people's intentions without open and honest conversation, which is the route I'd probably take with her. Promiscuous sex with strangers can be very self-destructive, so even as a friend you'd have right to be concerned. But jumping in to play white knight, hurling accusations at her friend, and judging the situation without full understanding of it could easily drive her away completely.

whoa...that is sordid.... I don't know of a situation like that but as a female, the first thing I thought is that K is being loyal to J, and they have some relationship that is more than just friends...more than pimping even. For whatever reason, K wants to bond with J but have meaningless sex with men. Maybe she just wants to be nonsexual friends with J, but knows that J wants more so she's like stuck in this limbo b/c she doesn't want to lose her friend who she is close with...but she knows she will if she gets serious about a guy. So, she just is physical with guys and keeps her friend J.
If it were me. and I were K, I might have trust issues with men, maybe she's afraid she wont have a trusting, serious, committed bond with a man (if men have hurt her in the past). Dunno i'm totally 'projecting' as they say on the other boards. Good luck with your girl, it sounds like you really care for her.