what can i do? (possible triggering!!)

I'm trying to help my friend but I'm lost as to what to do or say...
She has been in a relationship with this man for not even a month, and the first night they met she was drunk and had sex with him.
And it's changing her now... She talks of it in mumbles sometimes, and I don't know what to say. but I know she wants me to hear her, and i'm sure she wants me to say something in return. but i just don't know what.. she has my sad feelings for her but... feelings aren't words...
She continues to have sex with him, and she keeps mentioning the about the first night with him she was like "lets stop" and he put his weight on top of her and was like "why?" and she says she said she was tired and ready to sleep and he talked her into going on by asking something like 'just a little bit longer?" and she was like "but i'm tired" and he responded with "please?" and she was like "alright" .. she states it wasn't rape because of this.. but she goes on and says she wasn't there. that it was like someone else was there, in her place. Then she said it is just the same now just diffrent as there's no begging. and she would really like a book to read while he does his thing. and she gets angry because he takes so long to "finish". and then she asks me if this is normal.. along with why do men get all sweaty and if that was normal. and along with many other questions. I have answers to all those except for if it's normal... I tell her i think it can be rape, but she just tells me no, that she she lets him. She called me crying one night over it. But.. gah, i just don't know what to say!
What would be best to do in this situation? what can I tell her?

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First of all, she is the one who has to make a decision and take action if she chooses to. It sounds like she is making a choice to let this guy use her and take advantage of her, and maybe she has assumed that since she let him before, it is too late to stop it. It really doesn't sound like she wants to be having sex with him. Maybe the next time she talks about it, you could ask her that: "Do you want to keep having sex with this guy?" If she says yes, you could ask her to stop complaining to you, since she has made her choice. If she says no, ask her why she is doing it. Don't tell her what to do, but you can ask her questions to help her to work it out, reflect what she is saying back to her, ask her what she would tell you if you told her the same thing was happening to you, etc.

Thanks, I'll try doing those.
I am just at a loss because I have tried, from listening , ect. But I get the feeling she keeps bringing it up because she's wanting something... like a need.. that's not been filled yet.. so.. I'm like racking my brains against a wall trying to figure out what need that may be, and so far i've had no success.
and I'll ask her, maybe she will allow for more help. (i've suggested therapy but she doesn't want to talk about it- with anyone else. :\ )
Anyways, ^_^ Thanks!

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I frankly think if you think she is trying to tell you something and you want to be there and listen, then do just that. If he is being controlling of her then it's not going to be so easy for her to admit the situation is wrong or that she wants out. She may have been in abusive relationships in the past, she might be used to allowing men to have what they want.
A lot of women cave in from guilt, fear, shame, or because they think they deserve it. There is also the matter of manipulation, he might be putting it into her head that she deserves it, or that she can't get better, or that he isn't doing wrong.
May family has a history of abuse, and I am the only female who hasn't been in an abuse relationship (although I have been abused) because of my fear of ending up like that. This situation is not uncommon.
While you can't save her, and I know full well the frustration you are going through, if you want to support her then do so.

It is so good that she has a friend like you. All the above advise is good. Just listening is underrated. It is seldom that you can find someone to just listen and not jump in with a bunch of advise. It is ok to tell her this is not normal. It sounds like she is disassociating during sex. This can happen to women who have been abused. I tend to do it as well. I have been married for 25 years to a wonderful guy. I know that men need intimacy, so I "take care of it" regularly, but often I am not present. My husband has learned to read me, and if he knows I am disassociating he will stop, back off and talk to me quietly. Tell your friend that with the right guy, she can have a decent sex life.