I don't know who to talk to about this (TMI?)

Ohhhh ... RANT ALERT.

I came across this web forum the other day, religious in nature, that looked interesting so I thought I'd check it out. Big mistake. I just need to rant about this a bit if it's ok.

All these people over at this website view masturbation as a "nasty thing teen boys do" They refuse to believe it is a natural, normal thing, even when told things like the fact that babies touch themselves in the womb, that masturbating beats feeling frustrated, ect. These people have that "holier than thou" attitude and everyone who disagrees with them is either a sex deviant or a freak. How are teenagers supposed to feel good about themselves if they are preached this crap from adults with their ultraconservative heads stuck in the sand???

Does anyone know what I mean? I mean, it's hard enough for me to feel comfortable masturbating when it is encouraged!

((Indie)) - try not to let religious groups like that get to you. I agree it would be a difficult topic to talk about in real life, even with your T. There are many people world wide, especially from the older generation who grew up, thinking masturbation was wrong, so they carry around this shame. Even someone who might think it's normal may find it challenging to talk about it and that's why I started my thread.

It just doesn't make sense why something that's completely pleasurable and harmless could be viewed as wrong. It's not wrong for people to derive pleasure from their own bodies.

Thank you Lynn They believe it's a "sin", I guess. I don't know how into this topic I can get because of the community guidelines. I wish I could explain it in detail but I don't want to upset anyone by mentioning these people's religious beliefs.

How are they supposed to feel good about themselves if they can't be down on you (or somebody) for doing something wrong?

I'd say: recognize that it's they who have the problem, that they probably aren't inviting you to help them let go of it, that you don't need their good opinion, and that one of the best things available to do is just steer clear of them.

I suppose you could, if you were so inclined, give them a parting zinger like, "But it's fun!" If I did that, though, I probably wouldn't stick around long.

It's probably best not to get into the religious aspects too much here Indie because of PC guidelines. I don't want to see your thread suffer because it discusses religion. Really I don't think any group has a right to preach what a person does when he/she is alone as long as they're not hurting anyone. IMO I think it would be hard to find people who don't do it lol.

I agree Lynn, I'm not going to go into it any further. It's not worth it. LOL Fool, I have said something like "sex isn't just for making babies...the clitoris is the only organ specifically designed for pleasure!"...I'll probably end up getting banned from that site, and really I couldn't care less

i get why you may feel that way. for some people it takes time for them to be comfortable with their sexuality. i watch buttloads of porn and i feel ashamed of it. i watch girl on girl stuff and i feel bad about it. am i gay or bisexual or what? im not sure if i would actually want to sleep with a girl but why am i watching it online? i like dudes but the fact that i find some girls attractive is confusing. i dont have sex, im probably in some ways sexually repressed, but i still watch alot of porn. I feel even crappier when i realize i dont do much else but sit at home and do nothing. wtf am i doing with my life?

Blah, it's all good.

Pfffttt, Religious people that say it's a sin...pfffttt, then they are sinners "and" hypocrites.

I bet your mom would be really, extremly grateful and honored if you asked her to talk about this with you.

Hi, Indie.

How are you doing, hunny?

Hi Unconstruct, I'm ok. I haven't been around lately because my computer is broken and we're moving to an area where the only internet access is very expensive, so we can't afford it now. I am trying to check in occasionally though (I'm on my aunt's computer now), to keep up with the threads. The good news, though, is that I am looking for a job, and a month's pay could buy me a cheap laptop that I could use for college. I need a job badly LOL. Hope you're doing well and know that I haven't forgotten PC...I think about it all the time