Am I bi or straight?

Hello. I'm 18 years old. I'm confused about my sexuality. I might consider myself to be bisexual but I'm not sure. I've had a crush on a girl before and I like men too. When I see a pretty girl I get a good feeling inside of me. I find some girls to be really pretty. I like men too. I have thought about girls before. I'm confused.. If I'm bisexual then people are going to hate me. I have a boyfriend and I've told him I'm bisexual and he's okay with it. If people know I'm bisexual then they're going to think I'm odd. Can you help? Am I straight or bisexual?

You're too caught up in the opinions of others is what you are.

Yeah. I do worry about what others think of me.

You shouldn't worry what others think and if I were you, I wouldn't bother telling anyone besides your BF, because it's really none of their business. For some ...sexuality is clear cut and they know from a young age who they're attracted to. For others it can be a little confusing and thats perfectly fine too. SOme also believe that sexuality is 'fluid', meaning it's subject to change thorugh out ones life. Who you love is your business and not your average Joe or Janes business. You're fine and don't worry.

Thank you so much for the advice Yeah maybe I should keep it to myself and just tell my boyfriend only.

If you love your boyfriend and are happy with him, then let things be the way they are. If you find yourself falling out of love with him or for some reason the relationship falls apart, let yourself just go with the flow.

I would have always sworn I was straight. Then I met a woman (she was a colleague and I was in a relationship with my boyfriend!!) and there was just some click.

Yes,I had to fight past the stigma too. And it ended up not working out between us, and i went back to my boyfriend..
but the point I'm trying to make is to show you how I personally have experienced a fluid sexuality. I'm not going to put a label on myself and i'll go with whatever makes me happy!

Thanks for the advice.

I remember going through EXACTLY the same feelings all through school. Am I bi? am I straight? Am I gay?....round and round and round, tying myself in knots. It worried me so much, I used to get sick over it, feeling like a freak because everyone else seemed to know who they were already. HAh! If only. In reality they were all as messed up as I was anyhow - whatever idiot said your teenage years are the best years of your life is an idiot.

Over time I learnt to let it go and just be, well, not happy with who I was, but content to let it go and know it would sort itself out in time. Just remember you're ok, whatever happens.

Thank you for your advice

You sound like you're pretty sure that you are bisexual, but obviously not 100% since you made this thread. Here's my advice.
Only you can know whether you're bi or straight.
If you really want to figure this out, think a little less. The answer will eventually come to you. It's not about thoughts, it's about feelings.
You said you've liked girls before but also like men. What you need to figure out is if this is really who you are, or just curiosity. Either way, no one really needs to know, unless its someone you've dated for awhile. You definitely don't need to tell people if you think they will hate you.

One last thing...if you are bisexual, you're going to have to work on not caring as much what people think of you, especially if you're pretty open about it. Some people are going to be very ignorant about it. But the people's opinions you should even care about are the real friends that won't care.
I know this can be frustrating. I hope you figure it out soon, and stop being as stressed

Thank you for your advice

I know this may sound like seedy advise but you could try buying female pornography and see if it turns you on. I am guessing you are in high school but if you go off to college there are gay/bisexual advacacy groups you could look into. I am not saying to go have sexual encounters with a million people, but you could try experimenting with a girl you are attracted to and trust. Then you will know for sure. If this advise is too much for you, you can disregard it. It is ridiculous the stigma attached to homosexuality. It doesn't hurt anyone so I don't know why some people have such a problem with it. Good luck.

Thanks for the advice. I remember when I watched a video but a girl was dancing, it was like a strip tease or something. That turned me on. I even like girls kissing each other. So maybe I am bi. Sorry if I am gross

Once again thank you for your advice.

Hi Emo
You are not 'gross' - it's a perfectly normal reaction for some of us.

I think you need to not worry about the whole title issue and just go with the flow. When you find the right person, male or female, the chemisty will be there and you'll know.
Don't worry about society - go with your heart, and remember that the only thing that matters is that you are happy!

Thanks for the advice.

You could just say you're bi-curious until you know for sure. And if people say you're weird and don't accept you, then perhaps they don't deserve to know you!

Maybe I am... But for sure I have liked girls in the past. Yeah maybe the people who don't accept me are not my real friends.