[einundzwanzig]

I dont no where to put this topic... so okay if it fits here....

do men find aggressive women sexy? not talking bdsm just regular personality. i mean aggressive as in confident, independent, intimiidating supeior? is this a turn on for men, or do they for mostly like women are passive, quiet, door mats? lol i dont know, i am and have been told that im aggressive/dominant personality, and i get a mix of attitudes, some men love me and find it sexy that i am this way, but it makes me wonder if they like me because they want to sleep with me or because there intimidated? lol.... or maybe neither..... not sure, i want guys to like me for me, not for the other 2.

things like this dont bother me but i would like opinions, from both ladys and men on this topic, ladys do you find it annoying (not sure of better word atm) if a woman is conifindent, indpendent all those other things i said above? men do you find this hot?

lol, very random topic,

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[MissingMyOldSelf]

LOL Random, yes... but a great discussion!

I've found that men seem to like women who know what they want out of life, whether it's a job, goals, ...even what they want sexually. I'm also one of the aggressive/dominate personalty, but there's just some times I like to be the passive one, and be treated like the fair maiden.

I personally like to be around other women who aren't indecisive all the time, and that can stand up for themselves. I hate how women get that reputation, because I've been around men who are just as bad, if not worse, with their shyness, indecisiveness, etc.... and it takes a strong woman to bring them out of their shell.

My husband is very introverted, and I've always been friendly, outgoing, very extroverted. He always wonders how I can just strike up a conversation with the most random person, and act like I've known them forever. It's just my personality!

[Nightside of Eden]

I'm an aggressive woman, LOL! And I'm married, so some men obviously don't mind.

My husband isn't introverted, but he is very, very conflict avoidant. Always does everything he can to diffuse a fight, and generally just won't fight back. It's a little frustrating, actually, lol. Which isn't to make him sound like a total doormat, he just insists on waiting until I'm calmer and having a reasonable discussion. Like I said, very annoying.

Certainly when I'm out men in general don't seem to mind how outgoing I am. If they saw me mad I imagine most would mind, though, but that goes for everyone.

[einundzwanzig]

thanks for replying!!
Glad to no im not the only aggressive woman here. lol. ya i hate men who can not make decisions, like come on now, just chose something and go with it, grrr this irritates me so much lol so i agree

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[Nightside of Eden]

I wouldn't want to be with a man who couldn't make decisions either. My husband is very decisive, just extremely gentle about it--not commanding at all. And unfailingly polite, but I figure that's cause he's British.

[einundzwanzig]

oh really? ya maybe me being German has a lot to do with it. still annoys me how people cant decide on things, no matter what they are.

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[Nightside of Eden]

The thing with my husband being polite because he's British is really just a running joke between us. It's a cliché that Brits are more polite than Americans, but that's far from universally true. I've spent much of the past 4 years in London and there are definitely plenty of rude people in the United Kingdom! LOL

There are cultural differences, though. Some cultures really do push men to be more domineering and aggressive than others. Of course, lots of people ignore their culture and do what they want anyway.

[Xacatecas]

Ok as the only guy to reply so far, I'd say yes I do find it sexy, but like in all these things, it has to be mutual. I wouldn't want to be dominated in all aspects of life, but being able to get a straight answer to a question would be amazing!

It's all about moods and not taking anything too far but i guess the same could be said for any relationship.

I'm guessing einudzwanzig that you are German? I know in the UK at least there are very few taboos against strong women. I know that for myself I'd rather date someone I can argue and discuss with than someone who will agree with whatever her man says.

[salukigirl]

I make it a point to put everything out on the table. I realize 23 isn't old but I have played enough games so that I'm to the point where I'm not dating to date anymore. I'm dating for a long term, possibly marriage, relationship. And I'm totally done trying to impress or be someone I'm not.

So I told my bf "I get jealous sometimes. I can be a real *****. I most likely won't change anything bc it bothers you and it's the same for everyone else. I'm very stubborn and do things my own way. I don't need anyone's help and do not need a man for anything. If I'm with you it's bc I enjoy your company, not bc I need a man. If you can handle my crazy, we will be okay" lol

So now if he ever says anything I just ask him "what did I tell you?"

I am super lewd too. I belch all the time. I cuss like a sailor. And I have been known to get into my fair share of bar fight lol (typically over baseball haha). So we went out to dinner and I accidentally burped lol. In a restaurant I try to be a LITTLE more civil. And he gave me this look like "you are the most disgusting human being ever". I asked him "how many times have we met?" and he just kinda stared. Eventually he thinks "yeah....I have known for years how rude she is" and drops it haha. But I do the same thing every time he crop dusts in a store somewhere.

[einundzwanzig]

i get in bar fights to, sometimes with men lol, been beaten uo many times by men but ican hold my own pretty good. i dont back down unless im on the floor with broken ribs/broken nose etc. that was a bad night.. ive seen better. but ths is obvious alkohol is involved lol...

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[Xacatecas]

Well to be honest, those things aren't great for guys to be doing either! Perhaps it's gone beyond the stage of 'aggressive for a girl' to just 'aggressive'

[Nightside of Eden]

Originally Posted by einundzwanzig

i get in bar fights to, sometimes with men lol,

I've been in bar fights with men too! LOL I usually started them to some degree, though. The guy would say something I really didn't like and I would get all up in his face, then it turns physical and you do NOT want to get physical with me. I can't feel pain, lol. My craziness enables me to take down someone stronger than me. That and the fact I'm petite, they just don't expect it.

But yeah, there was alkohol involved!

[einundzwanzig]

same here!! ya i usually start fights to with men, then i wont let things go so they get mad, i am very opinioned person and men dont like this so ya fights happen lol.... im bit of a masochist....

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