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Old Jan 15, 2012, 05:44 PM
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Hi,

I have a vastly higher sex drive than my boyfriend and its actually causing a lot of stress in our relationship so I'm trying to find means of lowering my libido.

Searching online suggests I should look into getting my hormone levels checked and fortunately for me I have a doctor's appointment tomorrow so I'm going to ask about that. Otherwise I read that liquorice root supplements are supposed to help.

Has anyone tried this that could give me feedback on how well it works? Or does anyone know of other means of lowering my hyper active libido?
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Old Jan 16, 2012, 05:03 PM
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perhaps working out at the gym regularly might help.
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Old Jan 23, 2012, 03:55 AM
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Some antidepressants reduce libido in some people.

On second thoughts, maybe they just make sex less fun.
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Old Jan 23, 2012, 10:26 AM
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It would also help to find out what is inhibiting him, and to get him to increase his libido. It could just be that there is something about sex that he is not entirely comfortable about, such as some form of performance anxiety. If nothing like that is holding him back, then maybe he can try supplements like L-arginine and ginseng. Definitely a multivitamin. I don't know. It just seems healthier to me to try to resolve things by moving in the other direction.
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Old Jan 25, 2012, 03:36 AM
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I ran into the same problem a few years ago! It's frustraiting as hell, but I don't think there's much you can do (though I will admit you've already done more than I did at the time by looking up methods and asking around ^^ ).

The guy I was with was a one-a-day kind of guy at most, and I simply made him aware that that just won't cut it for me usually. I asked him if he could spend more time on me, not being selfish just asking that both our needs are met instead of one more than the other. It's understandable if he doesn't want to thought, it does take work!

I hate to say it this way, but the way that I got through it was to make him aware whenever I was horny, but not push it too far unless I could tell he was up for it too. Otherwise I would just bare with it, or excuse myself to the washroom if I got way to pent up.

Good luck and I hope you have more success than I did. And if it helps, me and him broke up because of completely unrelated matters, not because of sex. We couldn't handle distance when we both went to different universities.

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Old Jan 26, 2012, 11:35 AM
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I am a 33 year old man and I read your post with real interest as I suffer badly from this problem. It's all very well when you're 17 but it's mortifying and frustrating at this age. I worry about it all the time - I had my appendix out at 31 and even after the op, when they were examining the scar, I had a visible erection (nobody commented but I was embarrassed). It does happen to men our age, but there is nobody to talk to about it and I am getting so down - truly upset and frustrated about it. I still suffer with persistent unwanted erections on a pretty much daily basis-yes, thinking about sex / being around attractive women etc doesn't help, but I often get them for no reason at all. I get nervous in the summer about it and always worry about it on beaches etc. I have taken to wearing tight briefs under my work trousers to hide it which can be uncomfortable and irritating. Ex-girlfriends have been very mixed in how understanding they've been about this issue. Currently Im single again and this can and does accentuate it. I get very down about it and have thought about seeing a doctor many times-it's just the embarrassment of it all. It's just, at 33, I truly thought that this would no longer be such a problem. Some days are fine, most days are problematic but some days are just unbearable with hourly erections that are just a total pain. I just wanted to ask am I alone here, and has anybody ever managed to find a solution or 'magic pill' to stop it. Good luck with it - I know how frustrating it can be.
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Old Jan 28, 2012, 06:30 PM
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I am 30 and I have a higher sex drive than my bf. I am Bipolar and my hypersexuality can get out of control It does cause issues sometimes, but I simply just masturbate to try and reduce my urges. I also try to keep my brain occupied with puzzle games. Some TV shows can work well too because they appeal to other parts of the brain- cartoons, history channel, food network, discovery, animal planet....
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Old Jan 29, 2012, 03:55 AM
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Old Jan 31, 2012, 03:51 AM
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My boyfriend knows that I have a higher libido then him.

Masturbation and occasionally viewing porn helps. (I know there are a lot of people who oppose this!)

Something else that may help are pictures of your SO in suggestive poses.

Reading erotic stories?

Having your SO write you something naughty???
(Like a story that you can save to your harddrive)

It isn't as satisfying as the act itself but things like this can help.
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Old Jan 31, 2012, 05:54 PM
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I have a higher sex drive than my husband, so I have decided that it is not so bad to take the initiative and seduce him. In his case he cannot help himself. A lot of men apparently are like that. If you use a little tact and patience they come around and give you what you want even it they are not inclined at first. I agree with the post above, make sure he knows when you are in the mood and it may be a lot easier to try to increase his drive rather than try to curb your own.
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Old Feb 02, 2012, 09:25 PM
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I think the biggest thing is to make sure you are SUPER open about sex with your S.O. and that you can talk to them openly about any outside activities. (Not with other people if you are in a closed relationship) Like my bf knows that I do the above, and we've talked about it and he is okay with it. He just asks I don't use his laptop...XD!

JL is right too. >>! My bf is the same. XD
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Old Sep 21, 2012, 09:39 AM
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Hey Smacky - just out of interest, did this issue ever resolve itself?
If you came across any ways of reducing libido etc, please share.
Hope all is ok? All the best
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