Wondering if wanting and thinking of sex this much is ok or normal?

Not sure if my BPD has anything to do with this or not but thought I would throw this out there and see if there is anyone similar??

I constantly think about sex, sexual acts and anything of the sort, day in and day out. It isn't the actual acts that I find myself drawn to, it is the sheer elation and all over joy I feel when I think of those things that I am drawn to. So much so that some of the choices I have made in life, some recent some not so, have been for the drive to feel that way as much as possible.

I have had a rough past, from abuse during childhood, not just secual but mental and physical as well. I have also fed those feelings from that all the way through my 20s. Now this is something totally different, like I am driven to follow this wherever it leads me to.

I can relate. I think about sex all the time. I have a pretty high sex drive as well. It's been that way since I was a teenager. I think everyone just vibrates on a different frequency sexually, and that's okay. As long as you're not hurting anyone, it's all good. (My opinion...) I too had various forms of abuse in my childhood, but I've never acquainted my sexuality directly with it. I know, though, that that's different for different people, and chances are that you know yourself better than anyone.

It also sounds, though, like you're using it - the feelings you get from fantasizing, etc - as a form of escape. I have had that as well, to my advantage as well as to my detriment. For example, when I was about 13 or 14 I wrote a story about a high school couple in the 50s - a boy and a girl from very different backgrounds who fall in love despite all odds, and at the end the boy ends up having to leave and she's broken-hearted. Well, since then (and I'm 34 now, so, say, in the last 20 years) I have written and re-written at least a dozen versions of a sequel wherein he comes back to town years later and they're both more mature and, after an adjustment period where she punishes him for leaving with her coldness, they enter a fiery affair. For me the writing and rewriting was a way of acting out my sexual fantasies and desires, ones I didn't think I could access in a physical way. It was also a way to explore my desires. But for a couple of years there, prior to about a year and a half ago, it became my whole world; I fantasized about it all the time.

I met my partner a year and a half ago and that changed. Somehow I don't fantasize about it anymore. I think it had to do with loneliness, and a way to discharge sexual energy in a way that was safe because for four years prior to meeting my now-partner, I was not only single, but celibate, although I still had a high sex drive. I think it might be worth exploring some of this with a therapist, if you feel safe doing so, if the fantasizing bothers you and/or if you find it interfering with your daily life. Otherwise, you may just wish to explore it on your own: journal about it, talk about it with someone you trust (like a best friend, etc), or find another way to process it and learn more about it.

That's my two cents. Hope at least some of that helps you...

My sex drive is much lower than it used to be (seeing doctors to try to find out why), but I still think of sex a lot. I had a very strong sex drive when I was younger, but I wasn't very sexually active. If it's not causing you problems in your daily life, I don't think you should worry about thinking about sex most of the time. Just enjoy it. As long as it doesn't interfere with your life and relationships, it shouldn't be a problem.

Does mastbating make us want sex more or want less sex? i want to think of it less but then after mastbating i keep thinking of it. And is mastbating the same as having sex with somebody or different? I mean the real thing makes you feel more relief than mastbating?? Thank you.

I think it's different for everybody, olive. It's all in how you choose to define it; there is no right or wrong answer.

There's nothing wrong with that. I tend to think about sex... especially when I'm getting bored of a professor's lecture lol. Then I come home and go straight for the porn.

I never seen porn i just rock my pillow and think of guys that i know

i personally think theres nothing wrong with that, when i was younger i think about sex all the time even in school

Its nice to when your teacher is your crush! and i have 3 crushes. my problem is everytime im really slippery down there my breathing goes too fast and ppl might know or think im strange

I had crush on my professor he is bit old but he is super cute plus super smart..well i do think about sex but i dont masturbate in public

I agree sofistication is hot hot hot
Me neither but my breathing is fast everytime my undies soak so its really awkward

Masturbation and partner sex are both real thing and yield different quality of experience.

In regards to this statement in a post:

It also sounds, though, like you're using it - the feelings you get from fantasizing, etc - as a form of escape

Yes, that does sound like that is me as well. A form of escape. Thing is my life is not that bad, not bad at all really. So what is it that I am trying to escape from? Or is it just the need to fill the hole that I feel even though i do not know why I have the feeling that something is missing in my life.

As for the wet panties, maybe a panty-liner would help? Or even a pad?

Mastbating is dangerous at my home cos mum and her nosey hubby can hear me. I heard them talk about my moan. Its safer on the beach. If i lived with a lover it would be so much more fun

I'm missing being adult cos i dream of my crush and cos he is older than me i imagine being old enough to be his girl

Thanks! i bring 5 panties to school but i forgot to try panty-liner/pad.