Emotional vs. sexual attraction

Hi guys, I don't post in this forum much but anyways...

I'm a girl. Recently I have found myself in situations where I find myself emotionally attracted to girls but sexually attracted to guys? And I don't know what to make of it? I mean, I'll go crazy over a really pretty girl with a great personality. I'll think about kissing girls, but I'm much more sexually attracted to guys (but also less emotionally attracted to guys).

Any advice appreciated

- AJ

I have a similar problem, but the opposite way—I'm sexually attracted to girls and emotionally attracted to guys. I consider myself bisexual, but without any sexual experience with either gender, I don't know how accurate that is. Although, I've felt this way for years and years, so it's interesting that you're feeling that way all of a sudden. Maybe you've felt this way the whole time?

I don't know—I'm interested in what other people have to say.

I'm the same but the opposite too! I'm in a loving, longterm relationship with a guy (and I am definitely sexually attracted to him) but I am wayyyy more sexually attracted to the female body than the male one. But I have no emotional attraction to women in a romantic way whatsoever. Conversely, I find that I'm attracted to guys when I get a feel for and like their personality. I've noticed this about myself fairly recently too.

Anyway, I don't have any advice for the situation other than to say that you're not alone and I'm betting it's a fairly normal thing.

Well, here's a question for you. Have you ever been with a woman sexually, or even kissed another woman? You could think you are more attracted to men simply because you don't have experience with women.

I'm not saying that's a fact, just a thought :-)

Also, sexuality can be fluid, maybe you find women attractive, but would still rather be with a man.

I'm openly bisexual, and I wasn't sure "what was going on" until I had experiences with both genders. And for me, it's not so black and white/male or female. It really depends on the person.

Don't stress yourself out too much about this. It is what it is

"People throw rocks at things that shine"

"Sorry I'm only human, you know me. Grown up? Oh no , guess again..."

Lots of people in this position-- I myself am sorta romantically attracted to guys, very sensually attracted to them, but not sexually attracted to anyone! Sometimes these things all line up, sometimes not.

Here's a link for you to check out: Attraction - AVENwiki

Hi. I can understand where you're coming from. I have been pretty confused about my sexuality for many years. To this day I don't know exactly what I identify as or should identify as. I am emotionally attracted to women. I have only been in "love" with two people in my life. Both of them were female. However, I am not sexually attracted to women. I have had sexual encounters with them, but it never "satisfied" me.

But where men are concerned, I'm very sexually and physically attracted to them. I can name far more men off the top of my head that I have had fantasies about than I can women. And yet I am attracted to women.

Sexuality is strange. It's not as black and white as some believe. The best advice I can give you is don't be afraid to figure it out. It's perfectly normal and more people go through this than you would think.

OSFED|MDD/PPD|GAD|gender dysphoria|AvPD

I get the confusion too...I watch girl/girl porn (please don't judge...it really is quite different with no men there, lol) and don't watch any other, but yet I have only been interested in men IRL. I can't believe I just even typed any of that...I should go run and hide now.
I had no idea sexuality could be this confusing, although I guess it makes sense it is.
violet_skye, I guess I am kinda like you...I would NEVER find a random male's body attractive; I would need to be connected to them emotionally and then I find them very attractive, whereas I can see a naked female in girl/girl porn and be quite attracted to her curves and shapes, etc. alone.
I guess since I have never even kissed a girl (thanks, Katy Perry) I don't know for sure if I could be bisexual or not? I guess trying it has occurred to me but I have never seen any girl I could imagine even kissing IRL. I have never been attracted to any of my friends and I also have more guys that are friends than girls.

ajbpdljhsk, sorry for all of my confusing mess, but I guess the more you hear the more you know you are not alone.

I was also wondering if you had ever kissed a girl before? if you really like a girl, you might know more if you experimented some.

Sometimes, I think I might experience a little bit of this, except I think it stems from my extreme nervousness around guys. I have experienced very deep feelings for other women, but I don't think they were romantic in nature. It was more like deep friend love. I've never had a crush on a women and I've never been sexually attracted to one at all. However, I have crushed on guys and I'm extremely sexually attracted to men.

I dunno if you are like me. I think it's extremely possible that you are emotionally attracted to women but sexuality attracted to men. Sexuality is really complicated and interesting.